Quoting Quiverfull: Treating Children Like Burdens?

Quoting Quiverfull: Treating Children Like Burdens? February 1, 2015

quotingquiverfullby Carrie Anne Hudson from Rescued Remnant – Raising or Resenting Our Children

Editor’s note: Found this particular blog through one of the crowd funded adoption blogs. This woman is a missionary in China along with her family and likes to post things poking at things in American culture she doesn’t like disguised as Christian thought. Here she’s claiming that there are large numbers of parents that treat their children as if they are burdens instead of valuable members of the family. While I’m sure there are some out in the world that do treat their children like burdens and are resentful it doesn’t seem to be huge numbers of folks acting like this out in public, no matter what belief system they have. 

Why do all these Fundigelical Christian bloggers want to simplify everything/everyone into categories/boxes, reducing them from human to objects?

In my brief years of raising children, I have discovered that parents fall into one of two categories. Either parents become resentful or satisfied as their children grow up. The resentful parent will go through their children’s younger years pushing them from behind; hurried for them to become independent. They become tired and resentful because it requires so much from them. Or they jump in with both feet and become satisfied and thankful for their children. Consequently they experience the joys alongside of their kids. I realize that these are clear-cut categories that are actually murkier in real life. In general though I think that parents can be fit into one of these two categories of thinking.

Skipping a large pile of really bad Jesus exposition material before we continue on

When we treat our kids like they are a burden or getting in the way of things we’d rather be doing, we are knitting holes into their understanding of the Lord. These holes add up to a shoddy, weak understanding of a faithful God. We won’t be perfect, but if we are consistent, repentant, humble, and honest then at least all the strings will be attached. The knitting might look lopsided or the wrong color, but at least there are not holes and gaps that are difficult to fill after that little one is old enough to fill it with other things. Let’s commit together as parents to put our whole selves into the task of parenting. To teach our children that committing to them is not only our gift to them, but a gift to us as well.

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, influential bloggers and cultural enforcers and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • SAO

    Most of us secular parents planned our families and have the number of kids we want, rather than leaving it to “God” to do the planning and ending up with so many kids you need a school bus to go anywhere.

  • Jayn

    Can’t help myself–she mentions holes as if they’re caused by something left out, but I usually wing up with them because I accidentally added a yarn over , and a dropped stitch is pretty easy to fix in stockinet te or garter.

  • Saraquill

    Either things like buttonholes and lace stitches don’t exist in knitting, or she’s bad at metaphors.

  • Saraquill

    What about those who beat their children for doing inconvenient things like crying? Or deport their adoptive children when they stop being cute?

  • Astrin Ymris

    My first reaction was “Worst. Metaphor. Ever.” I mean “knitting holes into” something? Isn’t that an oxymoron? Wouldn’t it be leaving gaps in your knitting, or unraveling your knitting instead?

    Of course, when you’re trying to create a metaphor for something that only exists as a pronatalist talking point, you would run into difficulties. That’s what happens when your words don’t describe reality.

    OT: Has anyone else noticed that fundgelical fiction is particularly lacking in evocative visual description? Admittedly, I’ve only read short sections before giving up in disgust, but that does seem to be a common denominator in the segments I have read.

    I realized this when I read ‘The Jerome Conspiracy’ by Michael Wood, perhaps because I had a reason to finish it. I thought to myself that it “felt” like something written for an evangelical audience, and after thinking about it, realized it was the lack of enough description for me to clearly visualize what was going on. In my own idiom, all I could see was the words on the page, whereas usually I imagine the action vividly enough that occasionally I can’t recall whether a story I remember from years was from a book or a movie.

    Has anyone else noticed this?