“You’re [sic] little kids may not feel like a blessing right now. That’s okay. Parent them in such a way that they become a blessing.”(A tweet from Mark Driscoll.)
You see, he didn’t say “Parent them in such a way that you are faithful to the task God has given you as their parents.” He said “Parent them in such a way that they become a blessing.” In saying so, he places a huge burden of unreasonable expectations on those parents, the unspoken expectations that go like this:
“If your children do not grow up to be blessings, you did something wrong. You didn’t parent them in such a way that they became a blessing. You knew they weren’t blessings when they were young and now that they’re older they still aren’t blessings. You failed.”
Thankfully Mark Driscoll is no longer pastoring or involved with telling others how to parent now.