by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy – In Defense of Biblical Chastisement
Editor’s note: Michael seems to think that those that do not get beaten by the plumbing line end up in jail. The problem of criminal actions and behaviors is not as simplistic as he thinks it is.
The necessity of adverse consequences.
Because forbidden actions do not immediately meet with adverse consequences, children are induced to develop the belief that it is not a bad thing to violate the rules. When the only negative results are nagging and threatening, they learn to endure the conflict and develop an adversarial relationship with authority. Children do not know that they live under the government of a holy God who keeps account of every deed done in the body. Nor do they know that they will stand in judgment to answer for every deed and thought.
Most parents make a direct contribution to their child’s rebellion by unknowingly conditioning him to ignore commands and do as he pleases. When parents are finally forced to the conclusion that their child is old enough to be trained, they begin the futility of commanding, “No! Don’t do that. Did you hear what I said? Now stop it!” The child doesn’t stop and the parents allow him to continue until frustration and anger drive them to jerk the child away. The child takes offense at being bullied and resents someone interfering with his right to do as he pleases. The bottom line here is that through one experience after the other the child learns that he can defy the rules and still get what he wants. It is not necessary for him to win every contest to become an independent rebel. Just an occasional victory is enough for the child to develop a will to dominate. Again, it is the absence of consistent and sure negative consequences that allow him to grow into the conviction that there is no accountability other than to oneself.
Our prisons are full of people who thought they could get away with it. The response of adults to the child’s offenses is what communicated this false idea. The way the school system responds to their disobedience, the way the courts handle their first “petty” offenses, the way counselors address the child’s “problem,” and the way the media publishes the views of the professionals who blame everybody but the child, all contribute to the child’s disregard for authority. It is the lack of sure and swift consequences that foster indifference to the rule of law.
For authority to be respected it must have the power to impose consequences without limitation. Where the authority can be pushed to a point of helplessness, the lawbreaker will not fear and will set himself to do as he pleases. The Bible describes it this way: “Because sentence against an evil work is not executed speedily, therefore the heart of the sons of men is fully set in them to do evil (Ecclesiastes 8:11).” The authorities of our country are respected according to the degree they have the power and the will to investigate and apply force to the lawbreakers.
When our children are old enough to have developed sufficient independence, they will join society, playing the game of life by the rules they learned when they were young and vulnerable. Christians seek to train their children to choose the good of others and the glory of God above their own pleasure. Such dedication and commitment is rare outside the community of Bible believers. Just as God gave the state the power and the duty to wield the sword, he gave parents the authority to apply the rod. To the young child, it is ultimate power. It is the child’s assurance that he can never win against authority.
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