Editor’s note: For a change here’s an article from Desiring God that is usually reasonable. The author and her husband suffered the loss of a baby who started having problems in utero. The usual suspects starting saying and doing the usual things about praying. The author believed the teaching that suffering was merely God’s disapproval, a divine swat on the behind to show you’re doing something wrong. How many times in the QF movement have we seen people blaming all sorts of things happening on God’s disapproval: 9/11? Tsunamis and earthquakes, check. You name it, check.
Where the author differs from LAF and many others in Christianity is that she comes to the conclusion that bad things happening aren’t some sort of holy payback, they just happen. LAF chooses yet again to have cognitive dissonance and talk about Christian social classes and the acceptance of man, missing the entire point that sometimes bad things happen and it’s no one’s fault. Kudos to Desiring God for publishing a piece that goes against the standard Evangelical party line of punishment and approval theology. Quoted below exactly as it appears at LAF.
[Editor’s Note: Man’s idea of what the christian religion is will always leave people saying, “I felt judged.” We’re supposed to testify to God’s standards not our own. There is a christian social class in this country and to be in it, you have to keep up with all the social standards. Christ in not in it but at least you’ll be accepted by man. You’ll live under the fear of man and his expectations. You’ll spend your time, money, energy and resources living up to unspiritual moral ethics. Better to be known of Christ, be His workmanship, live according to His graces and persevere in the faith than to find in the end He never knew us. Matt. 7:21-23
What is taught here is applicable to all of the Christian woman’s life. Everyone should give it a read.]
“Don’t take this wrong, but we prayed before our children were born, and all of them were born healthy.”
I wasn’t sure how I was supposed to take that. We had just told a new acquaintance that our infant son, Paul, had died several years earlier, after we had already grieved three difficult miscarriages. I felt judged. According to this person speaking to me, Paul’s death and my miscarriages were easily preventable. It was simple. We hadn’t prayed enough. We had neglected to do our part. In short, we were to blame.
This attitude wasn’t new to me. I had felt this mixture of judgment and pressure from the day I learned of Paul’s heart problem four months into the pregnancy. Concerned friends had rallied around, assuring me of healing for my unborn son. “Pray, believing you will receive,” they urged from James 5, “and he will be healed.”So I prayed. I fasted. I recited set prayers. I read books on healing. I asked friends to pray. I begged God. I did everything I knew to do.
Read the entire article at Desiring God.
QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.