Quoting Quiverfull: Make Cookies & Don’t Stress Out Your Husband By Making Him Do Things

Quoting Quiverfull: Make Cookies & Don’t Stress Out Your Husband By Making Him Do Things May 15, 2015

quotingquiverfullby Todd & Jessica Smartt from Smartter Each Day – 10 Things A Man Needs To Be Happy

Editor’s note: On the surface this sounds sort of sweet and charming, but it’s the essence of what a patriarchal marriage looks like. Man works and uses his free time to go fishing and gets enough alone time not to be stressed out by the kids while the little woman makes sure there are meals, cookies, a clean house and kids trained enough not to stress poor poor Daddy out. This is what Christian Complementarianism looks like.


A capable wife. I need someone who can handle the home front so that I can go out and do what I need to do to make money.  Somebody who can manage the household so I don’t have to worry about cooking, picking up groceries, etc.  This would stress me out.


Well, isn’t he a sweetie pie? Honestly, I knew some of the things would be on this list. But I was really shocked by #1. It was convicting, exciting, and humbling to hear that Todd notices the kind of “homemaker” I am. I didn’t move things around on this list. It was number one. I know that I can be a blessing to him by the kind of home he comes home to every night. But now that I think about it, I know this is true.

He notices (and likes) when I clean out the closet.

He notices (and likes) when we’ve all made cookies for him.

He notices (and likes) when dinner is ready, and there’s a meal plan, and we don’t have to run out every day to grab some random ingredient.

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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