Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Dogs, Cats and Kids Are All Selfish?

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Dogs, Cats and Kids Are All Selfish? May 6, 2015

quotingquiverfullby Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy – Dogs, Cats and Kids

Editor’s note: He lets his dog eat cats?!? So not only does he make his animals compete for food he also approves of them harming each other. Can someone please explain to me again why anyone listens to his child rearing advice? Sick.

The life principle that will always work for you is one I have stated many times. Never forget it. “Make all negative behavior counterproductive, and reward all positive behavior.”

Kids do have complete control of their attitudes, just as you do. The other day, Shalom was trying to take some pictures of Gracie that were to be used in this magazine. She was to share the frame with our other dog, we call “Dog.” Dog takes every opportunity to lick human flesh. Gracie did not like posing with the dog—didn’t want Dog touching her. She had a Cover Girl pout. Every picture looked like the “before-reading-To Train-Up-a-Child” shot. That, of course, wouldn’t do in our magazine, so Shalom said, “Gracie, if you will smile and make a good picture, I will give you a piece of chocolate.” Wow, what transformation! She turned into Miss ‘I-love-to-be-licked-by-the-sandpaper-tongue-of-a-dog-that-has-been-eating-cats’ congeniality. Her smiles and affections to Dog were awesome. She is a born actress. Where did old Grumpy Gracie go? She had control of her attitude when she had a selfish reason to do so.

Now, when I say “reward all positive behavior,” Gracie’s situation is not exactly what I had in mind. And when I say, “Make all negative behavior counterproductive,” I don’t necessarily mean spanking. Most negative behavior in a child is not rebellion; it is immaturity, lack of self-control, or emotional struggles. If a parent is perceptive and has a sense of creativity, he can adapt the child’s environment to make negative behavior unpleasant. For example, if you want your child to stop sucking a pacifier, don’t spank, rebuke, or nag the child; just cut about one-eighth of an inch from the tip of the nipple every two or three days. In about two weeks, there won’t be enough left to give any pleasure. It will keep popping out of the little sucker’s mouth. He will be confused about what is happening. He will start wondering why he ever thought that silly thing would give him any comfort. A couple more discrete snips, and he will have to hold it to his face and stick his tongue out to taste it. No pleasure—no need. “Chuck it, little one, and show your smile to the world.” That is what I mean when I say make negative behavior counterproductive.

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • Anonyme

    I just can’t anymore. My outraged comment generator is broken.

  • I don’t have kids, but I think his plan for weaning from a pacifier is a lot better then the hot sauce method I’ve heard about.

  • ShaLaLa

    I don’t like it when dogs touch or lick me. Why? Because I am severely allergic to their fur, saliva, and skin oils. Being in close proximity with dogs is a physically excruciating experience, even though the past few years have seen a massive reduction in the visible reaction.

    I don’t imagine it would ever occur to Pearl to find out *why* a child seems uncomfortable, much less try to ameliorate the situation. Then they might start to get the sense that they’re people, and that would ruin everything.

  • Aimee Shulman

    even a broken clock is right twice a day…I’m actually really surprised that there exists even ONE child-raising area where “beat them till they lie whimpering on the floor” isn’t the first suggestion

  • My aunt always said let ’em have the pacifier. By the time they are in the third grade peer pressure will put an end to it!

  • Gypsy Rose B

    Children are often more directly logical than adults because they have reasons for the reactions they have. They haven’t learned to hide all of that away yet. If you take just a moment to figure out why they are pouting or acting out or reacting negatively to something you’ll find there is an understandable reason.

  • Gypsy Rose B

    It all seems needlessly cruel to me. Gaslighting isn’t going to erase the need for a pacifier.

  • Nea

    Children aren’t as stupid as you think, Mike. They’ll know what you’re doing. And again, you conflate expression with reality. Grace still didn’t like the dog and you knew it – but you didn’t give a damn if you could project the false reality you wanted to present as reality.

    Also – you gonna go back and rewrite How To Beat Up a Child now that you’ve decided that infants aren’t actually thinking and acting like full-grown adults? Thought not.

  • jennabobenna

    That’s hilarious! >.<

  • gimpi1

    That was my mom’s attitude, too. Pacifiers, princess-dresses, uncombed hair – anything peer-pressure would fix, let it fix.