by Biblical Gender Roles from his blog Biblical Gender Roles – Can a Christian husband deny his wife equal access to his income?
Editor’s note: Not if he wants to have consensual sex with her ever again.
This guy seems to be hell bound and determined to do all the things that would clearly lead his wife to not be in the mood for sexy fun times. This is what Economic Abuse can look like, no matter what your views on equality in marriage are. I’m guessing he thinks that the husband automatically gets access to the woman’s wages even as he’s controlling access to finances for the wife.
This is also why so many Christian women struggle when their husbands die with the issue of making financial decisions or even simply paying bills and or figuring out a budget, because any genuine role in the family finances has been removed from them by guys like this because “Some men might do this in order to shield their wife from some of the financial stresses the family may face.” Cruel to keep someone clueless about the family financial situation and without any real input into it.
So no, Biblically speaking both spouses do NOT have an equal right to what the other makes. The husband is the authority of all income that comes into the home, whether through his wife or himself.
A husband can deny access to his income as long as he is providing the necessities of food, clothing and shelter to his wife. He may do this because his wife spends too much money, or he may use it as a form of discipline for other sinful behavior.
But there may not be any negative reason why he chooses not to give complete and equal access to the family finances. Some men might do this in order to shield their wife from some of the financial stresses the family may face. Whatever the reason, the truth is from a Biblical perspective a husband does not have to open the family finances to his wife.
However, this truth does not mean he is released from talking with his wife and knowing from her perspective what she thinks are the financial needs of herself, their children and their home. Out of respect for his wife’s position as the manager of his home and children, and also because a husband ought to know his wife’s opinions, he should regularly inquire of his wife what she thinks the home needs are.