by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn’t Wait – Raising a Son to be Married
Editor’s note: Would it not be a better thing for society in general if we all raised our sons to be well rounded individuals ready to contribute to society and life on this planet instead of raising them to marry and start spewing out children immediately? Whatever happened to helping your son mature, settle into a means to support himself, and eventually a family, ensure he’s educated, knows how to take care of himself, instead of having him marry right out of the family home with zero life experience? Going from control by mommy and daddy to a marriage that daddy oversees with no personal autonomy? Learning practical things like plumbing and check book balancing are good, but only one part of the overall picture of what needs to be taught. Also look how ‘gendered’ the things are that Von advises teaching your sons, why not give all your children some experience in all those areas? Teach your sons to do laundry and your daughters to swing a hammer.
We need to teach our children, from an early age, that they are supposed to get married young and succeed at it. It is all too easy, as they are growing up, to focus on their immediate needs and desires, and to forget who we are training them up to be. Are our fifteen-year-old sons really thinking that marriage is a thing that applies to them? Something that might happen to them, soon?
Or do we as parents forget that we should have young marriage as our goal? Are we focused on school, college, job, etc. etc. and forget that he who finds a wife finds a good thing? That the Godly man is blessed with a wife and a quiverfull of children? That the Godly elder is one who has as his chief qualification his Godly family?
We need to teach them the skills they will need for marriage right now, while they live with us. The ten year old boy is certainly capable of crawling under a car, loosening the bolt, draining the oil, putting the bolt BACK ON and refilling the oil in the engine. And getting himself all messy. Does he do that? Do you even allow him to?
Let’s teach them plumbing, carpentry, electrical work, how to balance a checkbook… even though that means frequent messes, jobs not done right or quickly, and the like. 
To do a lot of that, we will need to de-emphasize many of the things that we are now emphasizing, like academics. Is Algebra or a good understanding of the French Revolution really a priority over, say, knowing how to wire a switch? Is ‘homework’ more important than that part-time job at the garage?And most importantly, are we training them to be a husband to his wife and a father to his children?
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