Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – How Good Is Good Enough For A Potential Man?

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – How Good Is Good Enough For A Potential Man? July 19, 2015

AnsweringAnother installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always  all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.

Okay, on to today’s question:

How good is good enough for a potential man?

I’ve been looking around for Christian young men for some time and I noticed that most of them did things I did not like: They played (too much) video games or they kept using profane language or they kept switching girlfriends or they were very flirty with everyone or seemed to be lazy in general or didn’t want (many) kids and stuff like that. About a year ago I found a guy at a Christian camp in Austria who does seem like the kind of guy I was looking for – even when I checked his facebook profile it all seemed OK but under the movies he watched he had two movies – twilight and Lord of the Rings – that I would not want to watch and I don’t think these are OK movies – now I don’t know if that is a serious problem I should consider or if I should just accept it since there is probably no one out there who is absolutely perfect in what he does – so how much should I compromise when looking for a husband?

Oh yeah! That good fundamentalist ‘cannot be Mr. Right because *insert improbable standard here* Which is one reason among many why there seems to be more and more single ladies in the Quiverfull camp these days. No one can measure up.

No one bothered to answer this young lady or give her any advice on where the line lays for acceptable enough. What would you say?

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