Quoting Quiverfull: Refusing Sex Is Abuse?

Quoting Quiverfull: Refusing Sex Is Abuse? July 19, 2015

quotingquiverfullby Anonymous at her blog The Girl With The Dragonfly Tattoo – The Ignorant Sexless Wife

This is by one of the culture enforcer type women that the disgusting rape-promoting Biblical Gender Roles holds up to try and promote the idea that his anti-women abusive ideas are normal. She’s talking about the anonymous online confessions at the Reddit subthread Dead Bedrooms where people discuss their lack of sex from their partners. She also fails to understand that not all the complaints are men complaining about women, the lack of sex from  a partner can go both ways, and it’s not abusive. Sometimes it’s just life, commitments, stress, depression or a million other things. Why not just talk to your spouse instead about this instead of posting a ‘poor me’ about it online? Why is it always so impossible to talk about problems in the world of extreme religion?

When I read testimonies in Dead Bedrooms like this, I wonder if the husband understands how much his wife is to blame for their unhappiness or bad marriage.  Does she understand how cruel she is to constantly reject him?

Does she know that he’s giving up on happiness in life because of her dead weight pulling him down?

Does she know that she’s killing her husband’s self-esteem?

Does she know that she does not care about one of his deepest needs that can only be met by her and her alone?

Does she know that she’s abusing her husband, slowly killing him inside?

Does she know that he’s trying to convince himself to hold out until the child is 3 or 4 years old – something utterly ridiculous and incredulous, just so that he can save his marriage?

Does she know that her refusing to have sex with him is like him refusing to speak to her (communication is as essential to women as sex is to men)?

Does she really care that he “was sobbing” when he’s been trying to get her to understand how he feels?

The short answer?  Women like this unfortunately miss all these signs, they actually don’t care – until its too late and he’s either cheated or divorced her for someone else.

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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