Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Does An Immodest Culture Allow For Less Modesty?

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Does An Immodest Culture Allow For Less Modesty? August 26, 2015

AnsweringAnother installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always  all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.

Okay, on to today’s question:

Does an immodest culture allow for less modesty?

I am 17 and live in Michigan and here all the girls wear very short shorts and low and tight tops – and I mean everyone, even older women wear shorts or short skirts and in general the modesty standard is very low. Even among the Christians – I go to a pretty conservative church and the girls still dress like everyone else, they maybe have their shorts an inch longer or so but it barely covers a quarter of the thigh. I also went to a missions trip with other teens and again – all short shorts everyday all the time. I am not sure how I should dress since I do want to go with the style but I don’t want to get wrong attention so I was wondering if it is OK to wear shorts and shirts that are less tight and short than what other girls wear (but might be considered immodest in more conservative communities). Since everyone else is wearing less, would that be fine since the guys are used to seeing a lot anyways and showing less (maybe half the thigh) would already be very modest… kinda like wearing a tankini and swim skirt on the beach instead of a bikini… what are your thoughts?

The answers she was given was to ignore what everyone is wearing and to make sure she’s dressed very modestly. Is this really necessary? What would you say to a girl trying to fit in and be modest at the same time?

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