Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Letting A Guy Know You Are Interested

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Letting A Guy Know You Are Interested August 23, 2015

AnsweringAnother installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always  all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.

Okay, on to today’s question:

Letting a guy know you are interested.


I’m a 21 yr. old young lady praying for the right man to come, and that it be in God’s timing. I’m not impatient (or trying not to be, anyway!), but one question I have is how do you let a guy know that you like him and are interested in him without coming across as being flirtatious? Or, is it best to try and not show any attraction and just wait till he makes a serous move? The last thing I want to do is be a flirt, but I don’t want to be so guarded that he doesn’t see that I’m interested. It is my desire to remain pure in all aspects – emotionally, physically, and mentally. God bless you all!

This was the answer she was given:

don’t make any moves to try to get his attention, or let him know you’re ‘available’. That is a major turn-off for men; as it takes the wind out of their sails, and sets the tone for the entire relationship – girl initiates, man follows – instead of the other way around.

There’s got to be a better answer for this girl that ‘don’t attract attention’ What would you advise?

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