Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Divorce Your Husband For Refusing To Give Up Porn?

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Divorce Your Husband For Refusing To Give Up Porn? August 24, 2015

quotingquiverfullby Penny from Meet Penny.com – HELP! My Husband Has a Porn Addiction!

Editor’s note: I will agree with her that you should not act in haste over any big decisions, like if you should divorce your husband for a so-called ‘porn addiction’. But praying that your man will give up his porn habit is sort of like flinging teaspoons of water on a raging multi-acre forest fire. It can help, at least a little, but you’re much better off insisting your husband go with you to counseling, or taking positive steps for you that you need in order to help yourself deal with the sense of betrayal or grief you might be feeling. If he refuses counseling, go for yourself. Pray if you want to but take real steps to help yourself.

If your husband refuses to give up pornography

I was very blessed because my husband was repentant. He truly wanted our marriage to survive and to surrender his sexual sin to God. But, I am very aware of the number of Christian men who refuse to accept that 1) pornography is a sin and 2) pornography has no place in marriage.

Giving you advice is hard because I have never walked in your shoes. I can imagine the frustration, but beyond that, I can only come along-side you and pray. Pray. Pray. Pray.

Pray for wisdom. Pray that God would crack open his heart. Pray for a miracle.

I have watched friends divorce over a stubborn man clinging to his sexual sin, and my heart breaks because I know that restoration is possible. However, if the husband refuses to change and/or the wife refuses to forgive, the marriage is doomed.

My only caution would be to NOT act in haste. Seek wise counsel. And pray some more.

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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