Quoting Quiverfull: Thoughts Can Ruin Your Future Marriage?

Quoting Quiverfull: Thoughts Can Ruin Your Future Marriage? August 1, 2015

quotingquiverfullby Lisa Hallahan from A Lovely Calling and reposted at Whole Magazine – Confessions of a Lusting Christian Girl

Editor’s note: Whoa! Talk about blaming and shaming! Claiming that thinking sexual thoughts before marriage will ruin or defile your future marriage is so wrong. It’s human nature to have feelings and thoughts that don’t always line up the way you want and this is veering too close to thought crimes. Why all the fear of thoughts and projecting sin on to others?

By entertaining lustful thoughts we are giving in to the power of lust which is pleasure at its worst description outside of marriage. It is defiling to your future marriage and spouse even if it is just in your mind. We know that all over the Bible we are given warnings to stay clear of sexual sin. We know that it is wrong to have sex outside of marriage. We know that it is wrong to have sex with someone else besides your spouse once you are married, but what about giving into sexual temptations (aside from actual sex) before you are married?

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • Allison the Great

    What they demand of people is so unrealistic. Lust, or what I say is just thinking about sex is not a crime. We’re humans, and humans are sexual creatures. We’re going to think about sex. There’s no getting around it. And since this god made us that way, it does seem cruel that he loses his shit when we do what he made us to do. That’s why I don’t swing with the whole god thing because all this petty shit really freaks him out. He gets pissed when we do things that we were created to do. If he were all powerful, he could change it. If he didn’t want us to be a certain way, then he should have done a better job at creating us to be the way he wanted us to be.

    Update: I just read this again and saw all the errors I made. Apologies, I wrote this when I got up this morning. It seems that I’m not coherent until I’ve had my energy drink.

  • SAO

    So much fundie thinking is so divorced from reality. The only way people meet these crazy standards is to lie. The more sincere lie to themselves, which is hardly an improvement on being an out-and-out hypocrite.

  • Saraquill

    Any person who’s turned off by my high school habit of reading anatomically impossible fanfiction is unworthy of being my spouse.

  • Astrin Ymris

    Veering close to thoughtcrime? Please, Christianity INVENTED the concept of thoughtcrime (or at least raised it to level that no one in the ancient world could have imagined).

  • Antoinette Herrera

    So are young Christian women supposed to have accountability partners to keep the bad thoughts at bay? Must they keep journals and confess in group meetings, or worse, in front of their fathers?

    Oh what dysfunction lurks in the CPM!

  • Anonyme

    Dammit, Sprint, your new commercial featuring David Beckham (meow!) has ruined my marital chances!…

    Good thing I’m not planning on getting married! 😀

  • Anonyme

    No, it’s just hard to come up with a coherent reply for something this awful.

  • Thomas Tutt

    What it sounds like we all need is headphones that play random blasts of noise at intervals of 8 to 30 seconds to interrupt any sexual thoughts before they occur. More often if you’re watching beach volleyball or something….

  • Antoinette Herrera

    I have watched too many K-pop videos to ever be suitably chaste for a QF husband. And that’s fine by me.

  • Antoinette Herrera
  • ChrisFromNewEngland

    Again, the Bible passage they base this on is Matthew 5: 28, which was far less about policing our thoughts a la Big Brother than it was about preventing self-righteousness. The self-righteous “religious” people were always the objects of Christ’s greatest scorn.

  • ConcepcionImmaculadaPantalones

    Should have gone full-in with the ridiculousness and included: DON’T EVEN THINK ABOUT MASTURBATION!