by C. S. Lewis as quoted by Vaughn Ohlman at True Love Doesn’t Wait
Editor’s note: Of course we know that Vaughn is sharing this paragraph for a two fold purpose. 1) To claim that feelings of love have no place in the decision of whom to marry and 2) to make that fundamentalist claim that feelings are not important at all, that you have to deny them. We all know what this type of emotional denial and thought crimes leads straight to. It’s never mentally healthy to deny your own thoughts and emotions.
No one in his senses would deny that being in love is far better than either common sensuality or cold self-centredness. But, as I said before, “the most dangerous thing you can do is to take any one impulse of our own nature and set it up as the thing you ought to follow at all costs.” Being in love is a good thing, but it is not the best thing. There are many things below it, but there are also things above it. You cannot make it the basis of a whole life.
QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.