by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles.com – How a Husband Can Enjoy Sex That is Grudgingly Give by His Wife
Editor’s note: This alone may be one of the worst pieces of marital advice given by this man. Of course you should talk about these things if something isn’t going right in the bedroom instead of faking that it’s wonderful. Eventually the fakee is going to be fed up and explode on the one insisting she fake it. Recipe for disaster like so much marriage advice given in the world of Evangelical Quiverfull. If you are doing it wrong and your wife tells you this you should listen!
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Women don’t always want to talk to you about specific technique in most cases, they just want to show you what they want and you need to watch for her nonverbal guidance during sex. If your wife actually expresses a desire to talk about some specifics when it comes to foreplay and the act itself than by all means have that conversation with her.
You need to talk to your wife about helping her with her desire, but I am talking about things outside the act of sex itself. I mean ways you can help her relax BEFORE sex so she will have an easier time mentally preparing herself for sex.
But what you don’t want to do is constantly annoy your wife for “scorecards”.
Things like “So what was my rating for that time babe? Or “Did you like that special thing I did?” or any of these types of things will annoy and bother most wives.
Should your wife complement your sexual performance? Absolutely! But if you have to ask for a compliment then it’s not really a compliment is it?
Your wife knows you love her. She knows you want to please her. If she has accepted the truth that she has to understand her own body and then show you the way she will do it. You just need to do your best to watch for her signals and simply enjoy that your wife is trying to please you and make you feel loved!