by Dragon Fly (BGR Honey Badger Extraordinaire! She comments many many times daily..) from her blog Girl With A Dragonfly Tattoo – 1888 Letters Show Women Who Create Happy Marriages Pick Well & Are Mature
Editor’s note: As with all in the extremist end of Biblical Gender Roles world this is linked through Do Not Link.
Another female cultural enforcer extremist Christian woman that insists that the secret to a happy successful marriage is controlling your thoughts and emotions and deciding to be happy. If it were only that simple and easy. Suppression of thoughts and emotions can only lead to depression and rob you of a healthy emotional life no matter what the enforcers say. Better to own your emotions and thoughts and deal with them when they come up than to deny them in the first place.
According to feminism, it’s all on the man. He has to meet all her needs first, no matter how outlandish they are, and then she’ll meet his needs in return, like a reward for letting her get her way. He has to accept her the way she is, or the way she will let herself physically and emotionally become (if she gains weight or acquires a contentious spirit after marriage), and he can’t ask her to change because that would be uncomfortable for her to face her faults. It’s the whole “Happy Wife, Happy Life,” meme… if “Mamma Ain’t Happy, Ain’t Nobody Happy!”
And that is very true. If the mom/wife decides to not be happy, to be miserable even though she has a good man, has a nice house, has more than enough money and has the blessings of children, then everyone in the house will suffer because of it. It comes down to immaturity or lack of character. If a woman cannot earnestly create a happy marriage with a normal, good man, then she is failing not only herself, but also her husband and even failing her children.
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