Answering ‘Preparing to be a Help Meet’ – What do You do When a Potential Husband is From Another Church?

Answering ‘Preparing to be a Help Meet’ – What do You do When a Potential Husband is From Another Church? November 4, 2015

AnsweringAnother installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always  all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.

Okay, on to today’s question:

What do you do when a potential husband is from another church?

Hi Debi/Shalom – I have read many books and attended seminars on dating, courtship eyc. I lay in my bed yesterday and keyed into YouTube biblical dating and came across the discussions Debi had with Kirsten. It was an eye-opener to say the least.

I live in England, 32 year old femalepreparing for marriage. Since listening to the conversations I have purchased the book (kindle version). I am a Christian and serving in my local church. From time to time I attend another church when am not serving and there’s no activity in my church). I have since noticed a young man who for all intents and purposes loves the Lord. He isinterested in me and although I did not notice over a year I now do and I am equally interested to get to know him. The issue is that there seems to be an unspoken protocol in that church marry from within the church and I think this is making it difficult for him to approach me or to say anything. What do you suggest in this situation?

The only answer this generated was from someone asking her why she has not switched churches to his church yet. Surely there are more common sense answers, like actually talking to him? What would you advise.

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