by Doug Wilson of Blog and Mablog – Feminism in Denial
Editor’s note: It’s posts like this that make me wonder what version of the Bible these guys are reading because the one I’m familiar with has Jesus doing things like washing the feet of others, multiplying the loaves and fishes and doing things for others – the example of servant leadership. But in this type of Quiverfull Evangelicalism it’s warped into a ‘make everyone else serve you’ theology. Wilson, I think you’re gonna have some ‘splaining to do..
So bring this down to marriage. The problem is that many Christian men, who ought to be leaders in their homes, have taken the phrase servant-leader as their justification for becoming servant-servants. Now of course there is absolutely nothing wrong with giving your wife a neck rub, and neither is there anything wrong with listening. There is a lot wrong with not listening. But there is something deranged about doing such things instead of fulfilling your office.
Now when you fulfill your office, by taking responsibility, by making the final decision after much discussion, by providing for your wife, by protecting her and the children, you discover there is no way to do such things effectively without being hard. But a servant-leader is hard for his family. He is not hard on his family.
And this is why, I guess, Jory Micah thinks I am an “extreme complementarian.” There are soft complementarians out there who are basically feminists in denial. They do this through blurring all the essential boundaries. But what is the actual difference between the feminist “men are not leaders” and the soft complementarian “men are leaders who should lead by never leading”?
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