Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Is It Okay To Join A Christian Group Just To Meet A Husband?

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Is It Okay To Join A Christian Group Just To Meet A Husband? January 17, 2016

AnsweringAnother installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always  all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.

We skipped a huge pile of questions on the site to get this one. People were asking things like it if was okay for girls to wear things made from men’s clothing, or what to do about men pestering them with courtship type attention without having ‘good character’. On to today’s question:

Is it okay to join a Christian group just to meet a husband?

I don’t know many Christian guys, mainly only the ones at my church. There’s a group aimed at people in their 20′s that meets once a week at a church close by that I’m interested in. I would like to get to fellowship with more Christians in my area, and I’ve heard this is pretty popular. If I don’t meet my husband there, but I fellowship more and grow spiritually, I’ll be happy. But, to be honest, I probably wouldn’t be as interested in it if I was in a relationship.

I feel kind of desperate just writing this, but, what do you guys think?

Sounds sort of like one of those female types that Debi Pearl warns against being in this book and in ‘Created To Be A Help Meet’. The only answer she got was to not join those type groups because they are filled with druggies and guys that just want to drag you off to bed. Looks like at least one of the Pearlites have absorbed Michael’s message that youth group is a hotbed of sin and degradation.  What would you advise this young lady?

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