by Kelly Crawford from Generation Cedar – 7 Misconceptions About Moms of Large Families
Editor’s note: Yes, I will agree with Kelly that the demands of a large family are different than a small family, but that’s as far as I would go. My own mother was one of twelve in a Catholic QF family and to this day at age 75 still complains about the lack of attention and love of her mother because of the large family. Things like that wound and stay with you for the rest of your life. It’s statistically and mathematically impossible to give as much one on one attention to one of twelve versus one of two or three.
Their love is spread too thin.
This is an idea we fabricated either from real, albeit false assumptions, or from an attempt to justify our birth control decisions. I know it’s fabricated because I only ever hear it from someone who hasn’t experienced having more than two children. The dynamics of a large family are different, in some ways from a smaller one, and one is the advantage of more inter-family relationships. While it may be true that a mom has to share her attention among more children, they also have the attention and affection of each other, a benefit not to miss. Additionally, if the family homeschools, (which is commonly the case with large families) the time together afforded them far makes up for the uneven ratio.
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