Quoting Quiverfull: Motherhood Only Career That Matters Eternally?

Quoting Quiverfull: Motherhood Only Career That Matters Eternally? January 21, 2016

quotingquiverfullby Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies – The Highest Career

Editor’s note: Nancy pushes her main message yet again. What is it about women having choices, even simple choices like if you go to school or work outside of the home, that these people find so threatening? Isn’t having a mother who feels fulfilled and happy better than having a mother who’s resentful and upset all the time because she’s doing something she doesn’t want to do?

Many times I hear mothers saying they gave up their career to come home and care for their children. I believe this is a wrong conception. What they are really doing is giving up an inferior job for the greatest career in the nation. Most careers outside the home are not building for eternity. However, when you come home to mother your children–to train and nurture them body, soul, and spirit you build for eternity. Your children are eternal souls and all you pour into them will count for eternity.

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary says a career is “a profession for which one trains and which is undertaken as a permanent calling.” Motherhood is not a part-time job. It is a permanent calling, a calling for life.

The Free Dictionary says that a career is:
a) A chosen pursuit; a profession or occupation.
b) The general course or progression of one’s working life or one’s professional achievements.

Motherhood is even more than a chosen pursuit. It is a calling and commission from God. He created us for this very task. This is His divine plan for our lives. When we embrace our career of motherhood, we know that we walk in the perfect will of God.

In Ezekiel 19:10, 11 God gives us a beautiful allegory about motherhood. He speaks about Judah and likens her to a mother. He says that “her stature was exalted.” The word “exalted” in the Hebrew means “to soar, to mount up, to lift up, to raise up to great height.” One translation says that she is higher than all the other trees around. There are many careers for women, but motherhood is the highest one of all. We don’t “come down” to come home to our children, we “COME UP” to the highest career of all.

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  • Nea

    Every time she yips about what a great mother she is, I wonder if those missing kids are buried somewhere.

  • ConcepcionImmaculadaPantalones

    Oh my goodness, I’m awful because I read “yips” and immediately thought…-i kai-yai-yay? followed with “Git along nasty Nancy” and the crack of a bullwhip in the distance.

  • Abigail Smith

    I just find this all so ironic, as someone who used to read her cr*p that she is RARELY home herself …she’s always off jetting around the world to “minister” to other women to TELL them about staying home. And then when she IS home, she has a staff of young girls to help her…..Looking at the way two of her daughters Serene and Pearl turned out (of Trim Healthy Mama “fame”) they are doing the same exact thing…those two are such fame-hunters.

  • Astrin Ymris

    Being a cultural enforcer is the only way for a CPM woman to have a legitimate career. It’s kind of ironic that it consists largely of hectoring other women for wanting to have a career… or even any personal time.

    Mind you, it’s probably easier to wax poetic about how to be a perfect housewife and SAHM when you’ve got an army of slaves students to do most of the scutwork for you.

  • Anonyme

    “Trim” Healthy Mama? Because it’s not good enough just to be healthy, I suppose. Gotta keep up appearances for your master…er…husband.

  • Anonyme

    I hate the mentality (and it’s not restricted to QF or even non-religious cultures), that a woman will be a great mother if she just has the right “mindset” and focuses on the fact that women can reproduce. I have mental/emotional challenges that are mostly moderate, but can spike without warning, even with something as simple as having someone be rude to me on the telephone or a sudden schedule change. I would NOT be a good mother. Yet, though I’ve expressed this to my mom or my older sister, I’ve gotten myriad answers such as “you have to be open to children” “you don’t know [that you don’t want children] for sure/God has a plan” “it’s different when they’re your own.”

    So, I’m supposed to risk my mental health, and the quality of life of my hypothetical child, because the decision not to have children can NEVER be for sure. And I’ll magically become an amazing mother because the kid happens to share DNA with me, and apparently everything I’ve learned about free will is negated because, apparently, God won’t let me make my own decisions.

    Also, nice denigration of careers outside the realm of motherhood, Nancy. I can’t wait to tell my ex-nurse aunt that her years of helping people didn’t matter and she was only “worthy” when she decided to have and raise children (and put up with a husband who was the poster child of abusive, self-righteous evangelical men).

  • Mirella222

    Or you could have a career outside the home and still be a mother? You don’t have to have only one or the other. If neither of the parents stay home, it is not the end of the world. It means that the kids can go to daycare and make friends. Or the grandparents might look after them during the day, which leads to them bonding with their grandparents (and cousins, if the other grandkids are there too). And when they are older they are in school so they have friends and teachers to learn from. I get it that Nancy is all about isolating kids from “the world”, but too many mainstream people also seem to think that the “best” is for the mom to stay at home, which is not always the case. The alternatives can be great too (sometimes better, depending on the situation).

  • Antoinette Herrera

    Shorter Nancy Campbell: Be a mother! Or prepare to be shamed and slimed by good Christian wives and mothers like me!

  • Jezebel’sOlderSister

    Not having been raised or living in a Quiver full situation, I am ashamed that I am only no realizing that there are many women “living” in this type of situation. To all of you who have left, or are leaving this situation, many congratulations and much empathy for what you must have suffered — emotionally and physically — in these situations. I hope that all of you gain the care, support, and nurturing you deserve. As a Buddhist, I will hold ya’ll, and those still in this mindset, closer during my metta meditations.

  • Abigail Smith

    It’s awful. The book is over 400 pages, took them many years to write, is full of typos AND sex advice as well…. and they could have stated the whole jist of the diet in one page….it’s just a rehash of the carb cycling idea which is not a new idea, nor is it their idea. When I tried to ask questions on the forum, the supporters would jump down my throat for legitimate questions….it was disturbing…They also conveniently started selling their own products (THM Stevia, etc). The husbands quit their jobs to manage the wives’ business ventures. Isn’t that against QF?????

  • Abigail Smith

    I like that term “cultural enforcer”. Very appropriate.
    Here’s a new concept, Nancy: Why don’t you and your daughters stop giving advice to everyone else on how to live for Jesus and just live for Jesus yourselves? Would they even follow Him if it wasn’t a source of income for them?

  • Astrin Ymris

    I didn’t originate the term– “cultural enforcer” is what we call Nancy Campbell and her ilk on this site.

    “Honey badger” is another possibility.

  • Allison the Great

    I can handle being shamed and slimed by women like that. That’s why there’s such things as headphones. Let them see you put them in and turn your music up. The best weapon against these assholes is showing them that you really don’t give a shit. They exist to (using their favorite terms here) rebuke and admonish We the Heathens.

  • Donna Beth


  • Donna Beth

    Although I’m a mother, I know women without children who are very maternal. They love and enjoy children, yet choose not to have their own. I don’t get all of the pressure women endure because they choose to remain childless. Nor should they be put in the situation of having to explain why – its nobody’s business. I’m new to the Patheos site, but have been learning about Quiverful by following the dreaded Duggars. One thing I know is that if a woman chooses motherhood, she’d best be prepared to care for them. Not expect older daughters to raise them. Also, if a woman has a partner and becomes a mother, she’d best consider how she’ll manage if something bad happens to her partner and she’s left alone raising her children. That goes for Quiverful fathers, as well. I’ve been down this road when my husband died. I wonder if self-righteous Quiverful parents ever consider this type of thing happening. I doubt they give it much thought.

  • Donna Beth

    Nancy’s full of s*#t.

  • BridgetD

    I’ve seen my fair share of women who get pregnant and it turns out that they’re NOT good mothers. So, they’re stuck with a kid that they don’t want (or grow tired of and don’t want to deal with, as it seems to be the case with a certain relative of mine), and both of them suffer for it. Sometimes, it can turn very dangerous.

    Sigh. People need to mind their own damn business when it comes to a woman’s choice to reproduce or not.

  • Steph Lane

    These bitches are like a fucking street gang.