Quoting Quiverfull: Stop Grumbling and Complaining, Just Wait?

Quoting Quiverfull: Stop Grumbling and Complaining, Just Wait? January 29, 2016

quotingquiverfullby Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies – Where’s Our Longanimity?

Editor’s note: Shorter Nancy Campbell – shut up, don’t complain and smile, smile, smile! Sort of the vein of her main message of ‘The beatings will continue until morale improves.’

Sometimes we can give up on faith because things don’t happen immediately for us. We wait years for God to answer our cries. We wait and wait and it seems that nothing happens. But we must remember that it is not only faith, but patience! In our modern, hectic age, most of us have not learned to have patience. We don’t get any practice.

We don’t have to chop the kindling and then bring in the wood to light the fire (although that’s what we do each day); we just expect our heating system to keep us warm. We don’t have to boil the copper, scrub our clothes on the old scrubbing board, and then hang them out on the line; we just press a button on the washing machine and then the drier.

Many mothers simply cannot wait until their baby is born to find out if it will be a boy or girl. I’m not saying it’s wrong; just that we don’t have patience! Most children today have never experienced the longing and anticipation of waiting for something for months and months or even a year or more. And so we have lost the art of patience. I think it’s time we learned it, don’t you?

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  • SAO

    I wanted to know the gender of my babies. It means you can look forward to the child you’re going to get, rather than have to deal with a disappointment/readjustment when you’re also dealing with postpartum stuff and midnight feedings.

    I think anyone at risk for a child with Down’s should get tested. That means they welcome their child into the world, rather than dealing with the blow to their dreams when the baby arrives.

  • Nea

    Wait and wait and wait and if it never happens before you die, you didn’t wait right.

  • Astrin Ymris

    Nancy-to-English translation: Ignore the complete lack of evidence that anything I say is true, and keep buying my stuff and donating to my website as long as you live. That includes “buying” my continual attack on your self-esteem as being valid and warranted, as well as the books and CD I sell.

  • Abigail Smith

    So now an ultrasound is a lack of patience? Contrary to her belief, they don’t only do those to determine gender. And they are not always correct. With my youngest son, the U/S told us he was a she, and the tech said she was never wrong. Well she was. He is 5 now and all boy.
    I remember reading in one of her books where she put down women who used pacifiers for their babies. I personally never used one with my kids, but I know many who do, and I found myself feeling judgmental toward them. Sick.
    Then I realized it has nothing whatsoever to do with Christianity whether or not you use a pacifier for your baby. I can’t imagine all the false guilt she dumped on women who use them. I think that was the beginning of the end for me of listening to her.
    She used to make me feel so bad about myself…the burdens she places on people are horrible. I’m so glad she’s being exposed

    The linking of if you do XYZ you are “holier” and a better Christian is just nonsense and that’s all she promotes. Can you say Legalism?????

  • Finding Home

    Longanimity? Is she perhaps searching for the word longevity?

  • BridgetD

    Patience is good to practice, but so is action. No one gets anywhere by being passive and waiting for good things to come to them. I ought to know, I still struggle with that sometimes! If God doesn’t help you, stand on your own two feet and help yourself!

    Also unsure about why ultrasound gender identification is a lack of patience. Sure, you could wait until the baby is born, but if you’re getting an ultrasound anyways (as you should to monitor your baby’s health), why not?

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    I looked it up. It is actually a real word and it means what Nancy is claiming (Surprise, surprise!)

  • Finding Home

    Wow! I learned something new today, and from Nancy Campbell–who would have thought. 🙂

  • Abigail Smith

    And if you REALLY want to be “in with God” come to my Retreats. (snark)

  • Liz V.

    For me, finding out my babies gender wasn’t a sacred surprise. I would love and value my child no matter what and who they are. I am a planner though, and it was efficient to be able to get the room completely ready and everything I would need before the baby came. So, not really an indicator of patience for me. I think parenting and healthy relationships require loads of time and patience. I love to garden, which is all about patience and waiting. Saving for retirement and vacation also require patience. My kids and I wait all year for strawberry season and tomato season, and we do special things to celebrate those times. But I don’t view patience as holy. Just part of a balanced, healthy life. Sometimes the best move is patience, and sometimes action is better.

  • jennabobenna

    My mom was told over and over I was *definitely* a boy. She was convinced I was a girl and planned accordingly. 24 years later, I am still definitely a female. Ultrasounds aren’t a 100% foolproof test for biological sex, but they do serve important medical purposes. Also, I was big on pacifiers. I would actually stash them all over the apartment so I always had one. I had semi-permanent marks on my face from pacifier use in all my baby pictures. Meanwhile, my brother and sister never showed much interest in them. It didn’t have any permanently detrimental effect on me, so I’m not sure what Nancy’s beef with them is.

  • Abigail Smith

    It’s just another example of her sticking her nose where it doesn’t belong.
    I have 3 children with Sensory Processing Issues (and some issues myself). My kids need weighted blankets, stuffed animals to help them sleep and they go to Occupational Therapy to get help (does that mean I’m not being patient, Nancy?). My son who also has autism used to chew up his shirts to shreds when he was a toddler…I was told to get him a chew toy (they sell them in special needs catalogs) and it helped him.