by Michael and Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy magazine – Marriage Good Will
Editor’s note: I know we’ve featured some rather toxic sludge from this issue of No Greater Joy already this week but it just keeps on coming. This entire article reads like a ‘Shut up about your husband or end up divorced in a lesbian duplex’ threat that Debi loves to toss about. Notice that while they are citing ‘studies’ the studies are unnamed and not linked to. Citation needed Mr. and Mrs. Pearl.
Researchers have pondered the great social dilemma of failed marriages and broken homes. What are the root causes? Many theories have been advanced, but after much research the consensus is profoundly simple. By observing couples as they react to one another, researchers have been able to identify problems in marriages and even predict with a great deal of accuracy the future of a relationship.
Many marriages fail due to the lack of good will. A relationship is only as stable and productive as the good will of both the husband and wife.
Functional magnetic resonance imagining brain scans reveal the differences in male and female responses to the words and actions of their spouses. Even subtle differences are manifested as researchers observe the area of the brain that lights up on their monitors, identifying cerebral responses. Anger, fear, irritation, anxiety, confusion, jealousy, resentment, etc. are processed in given regions of the brain. An FMRI (Functional MRI) reveals more to researchers than the individual knows about himself.
One study involving a test group of sixty couples documented the differences in the way men and women respond to the same situation in a marriage relationship and how those different responses affect their marriages. In this study it was interesting to note how most women were irritated by habits that are common to most men. All the women judged their husband in some degree guilty when he drove aggressively, swiveled his head to look at a woman walking down the street, hogged the bathroom sink when both were brushing their teeth, forgot to wipe his boots off when coming into the house, neglected to put the toilet seat down, and many other dumb-man habits. It would appear that wives everywhere evaluate husbands with words such as: self-centered, selfish, rude, clueless, a clod, focused on one thing, etc.
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