Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – I Can’t Control Her So Should I Dump Her?

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – I Can’t Control Her So Should I Dump Her? February 20, 2016

quotingquiverfullby Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy magazine – Should the Relationship Move Forward?

Editor’s note: Starting with another Pearl letter. Can you guess how Michael is going to answer this one? After years of quoting Mr. Pearl I can say that he is very predictable. Real letter or another Pearl invention?

Dear Mr. Pearl,

I’ve had my eye on this girl for a year. Since I live in a different state, we keep in touch daily with Skype. Her parents are youth directors. Their home is always open to the youth, and a bunch of the young people hang out all weekend and have done so for years.

Since this girl was a teenager, several of the same guys who don’t seek the Lord have spent the weekend evenings there watching movies or playing games. It looks bad.

She refers to these guys as her “really good friends.” A few weeks ago, I asked her point blank if she thought any of these guys were truly seeking God. Her answer was, “A little. I think they might be thinking about it. You need to get to know them because they’re really sweet.” Her choice of best friends gives me pause. I wonder, am I jealous?

I tell you, I’ve gone back and forth as I consider her for my future wife. I know she wonders why I hesitate in popping the big question. In light of Psalm 1, I wonder why her best hangout buddies are lost guys.

I am God’s servant, seeking first his kingdom. Should I go forward?

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.


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