Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Biblical Divorce Because Of Abuse?

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Biblical Divorce Because Of Abuse? March 27, 2016

AnsweringAnother installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.

On to today’s question:

Biblical divorce because of abuse?

I have never really experienced divorce in someone close to me before but this past year I have had a couple of people I know really well go through divorce and it has really stirred some deep questions in me. I believe God hates divorce, in fact he states it in His Word but he does allow it in the case of adultry. But what about those who are being abused? I do not want to base my conviction upon feelings but upon the Word of God and I’m really trying to figure out what God would have a woman do in those circumstances. I think divorce is allowable in these cases but I don’t have a good Bible verse to back this up. Both of my friends who got a divorce this year were being physically abused to the point of fear for their life. I can’t see it being wrong to leave their husbands but what does the Bible say about it?

So, I guess what I would love is to see a good disscussion on Biblical divorce, circumstances, etc.

Is divorce allowable in the case of abuse?

What about a person who was divorced before they were saved? Should they remain single or can they marry in the faith?

What about a believer who is married to the unbeliever and the unbeliever wants to leave? The Bible says to let them go but then is this person required to stay single or can they marry in the faith?

I know how much God hates divorce but I want to know how to respond to my friends or others I may come in contact with through my life. Any Biblical help/insight would be most appreciated.

Predictably most of the answers counsel no divorce, even in cases of spousal abuse. There has to be something better to tell this young lady dear readers..


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