Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Spiritual Mask Prevents Husbands?

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Spiritual Mask Prevents Husbands? March 6, 2016

AnsweringAnother installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.

On to today’s question:

Spiritual Mask Prevents Husbands?

I have been a christian since the age of Sixteen and now twenty seven years, it has been four years since i have not been in a relationship and and neither been in any type of sexual encounter but some people keep telling me that the reason why am not getting a boyfriend or even marrying is because i have a spiritual mask, whereby a guy sees me but he chooses not to come and ask me out. But the bible says that we are a new creation in Christ Jesus and a love God, can this happen to a devoted Christian?

As i am becoming emotionally frustrated because if a serve God, how can i have what people are saying.


She told told to just trust God will bring the right person at the right time if it’s meant for her to be married. Uh, sure, let’s ask Anna Sophia and Elizabeth Botkin how well that’s worked out for them? Advice anyone?

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  • Nea

    I notice that the answer to one of these questions is never “WTF are you even talking about?”

  • Antoinette Herrera

    I honestly wonder how it is that a grown woman, not named Sarah Palin, can produce so much word salad. My first bit of advice would be, simply, to enroll in adult literacy classes.

    Beyond that, this young woman needs to stop waiting for the Ideal Christian Husband to appear. She’s not doing herself any favors.

  • Victoria

    So much of this could be fixed with a quick proofread before hitting “post.”

  • Mirella222

    If you want a husband, and you are not meeting anyone in real life, seriously,go and join a dating website. You can also sign up for clubs and classes in your area to meet new people (an intro writing class might be useful, for example). You can’t just expect a person to magically appear in your life. If marriage is a priority to you, then you have to put in effort to find someone, and not just passively sit by and wait around.

  • Allison the Great

    So she’s saying that she’s such a Jesus Freak that it’s turning guys off and making them run in the opposite direction? That’s what I got from this bullshit.

  • Melody

    Wouldn’t that be something?!

  • pl1224

    Frequenting one’s local library can be productive. Also, your local Barnes and Noble as well as independent bookstores can lead to meeting very interesting, literate men.

  • AnonCar

    Or perhaps that her presentation of her faith seems fake. If that’s the case…