by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies – Cemented or Fragmented
Editor’s note: In contrast to last night’s Quoting Quiverfull that the husband must put off his negative emotions and bless his family and wife when he comes home, now Nancy says that you cannot have separate desires or interests and be married. She thinks it’s selfish. You know what’s really selfish? Demanding others fake their emotions and put aside what they want out of life. Why does no one in the Quiverfull movement realize that you can have a successful, fulfilling and happy marriage and still have your own life and interests at the same time?
Who is your marriage all about? Is it all about you? Many couples live together, but are not bound together or even enjoy life together. They start off with great love, enjoyment, and enthusiasm but often their relationship grows boring and cold.
Why? I believe it’s the “all about me” syndrome. What is my husband doing for me? How is my husband serving me? I have a right to be who I am and do my own thing. Soon the couple are living their own separate lives instead of being cemented together.
The very first marriage principle that God gave is oneness. Genesis 2:24 states that the married couple are to be “one flesh.” We are not separate entities. We are one. We should think oneness. We should be yielded to one another to be “one flesh” as much as possible. We should be yielded to one another in one spirit, mind, and purpose to build our marriage and family.
We haven’t got time to be pursuing our own life. Forget selfishness. It’s self-destructive. God has given us a mandate to build a family and establish His kingdom on earth TOGETHER! It’s a TOGETHER TASK! The more we become one, the stronger we become. The more fragmented we become, the weaker we become.
QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.
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