by Adeye Salem from No Greater Joy Mom – The Silent Hurt
Editor’s note: This is something I’ve seen in churches, even quiverfull ones, where families with large numbers of children, special needs or not, aren’t invited to events or social happenings. While it’s bound to be hurtful is it realistic to expect every event or place to make special accommodations for a large quiverfull family if it means inconveniencing the majority of people there? Thoughts on this?
The absolute loneliness of raising a large or special-needs family.
It is, by far, the greatest struggle of my heart. I can deal with all the medical stuff. Raising non-verbal children is really no big deal for me and I consider it an honor and a privilege to be their mom. I love each and every moment that I have with the children with whom God has blessed me. I’ll juggle schedules until late at night, no problem.
But when a child discovers that our clan hasn’t been invited to a gathering simply because of our family size, ouch! It hurts. We try to deal with it because we understand that it’s just the way it goes and this is the life we have chosen. God never said it would be easy and we try to embrace the difficult times with grace. But my heart breaks for children who struggle to understand why. I ache because I know how much it hurts them—even though they would never, ever say anything. It breaks my heart that, sadly, even in church circles, people are so reluctant to include families who may look different (and crowd their living rooms a little more), but who are also longing for community, for fellowship.
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