Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – This is the Damage Female Cultural Enforcers do in Quiverfull

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – This is the Damage Female Cultural Enforcers do in Quiverfull April 11, 2016

quotingquiverfullby an anonymous letter writer to Ladies Against Feminism’s Lori Alexander on her personal blog Always Learning – Taking Responsibility For Her Own Unhappiness

Editor’s note: Shout out to Debi Pearl in this bit. While what the letter writer is describing in her marriage sounds good, like they’ve managed to get back on track in a healthier way. Especially good is her responding in a better way to her husband’s chronic health condition. What she’s not said, only hinted at, it’s because she is submitting to her husband to an unhealthy degree and suppressing her own emotions and needs. Typical Quiverfull, fix the marriage by pretending everything is perfect once you start doing ‘Biblical submission’

As a result of reading your blog, I have a new outlook on life and a new approach in my marriage. I actually had been very familiar with Debi Pearl and all of her teachings before I was married. But when I got married and the harsh realities set in, I forgot many of those teachings and thought that what worked for some Tennessee hippies probably wouldn’t work for my marriage and they must somehow have it easier. {I still love Debi Pearl a lot but I find you and your lifestyle more relatable – we don’t all have to live in the country and wear dresses and grow herbs in order to follow God’s commands, lol}. I thought that I just married the wrong man, I screwed up my life, and I was angry with myself. I thought that I deserved to be happy and surely God didn’t want me miserable forever. But now I know that I was responsible for a lot of my own unhappiness, and now that I’m practicing what the Bible and your blog both preach, I have found so much more happiness and contentment than I ever thought possible in my situation.

I finally started looking at the good around me. My husband kisses me and tells me he loves me every day. He forgives me quickly when we argue. He never forgets a birthday or anniversary. He always assures me that he will be better one day and we will have the life we wanted. He is still able to work from home {for his family business} and I don’t have to work and can stay home with my daughter. He wants me to homeschool our daughter when she gets to school age. He wants us all to start going to church together once his pain lessens and he can sit in a pew for an hour. We live in a nice house, drive nice cars, have an over abundance of food and clothing, the list goes on. I was totally blinded to all of the good in life because I was so bitter and hurt by things that have gone on in the past. I still struggle from time to time, but instead of being mad at him every single day, it might be once a month now and I move on quickly. He sent me an email one night when I was asleep saying how happy he was with the way our relationship was going, and how he felt like he didn’t have to walk on shells anymore, and how he felt like we are a team now. He used to tell me I was terrorizing him, and I guess I was. I was just kicking him while he was down, stressing him out more, which was only making it harder to get past his pain.

Part 1

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.


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