Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 Disrespectful Wife Leads to Divorce?

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 Disrespectful Wife Leads to Divorce? April 22, 2016

quotingquiverfullby Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles – Why the Movie ‘Fireproof’ Offers Unbiblical and BAD Marriage Advice

Editor’s note: In this segment Larry argues that God’s unconditional love does not include unconditional affection, that you only get affection if you are doing everything right the way God wants and that this is how a man should treat his wife too. That is the true recipe for divorce it seems to me. What these sex starved ‘Good Patriarchs’ don’t seem to realize is that by small kindnesses like flowers and cooking dinner they might get more sex. Dismissing these things as unimportant seems to guarantee a permanent headache in many women.

Getting back to Fireproof – they teach that God only has one kind love and it is always unconditional. In the view of fireproof a husband is not only to unconditionally love his wife by providing her, protecting her and sacrificing himself for her but is also called to perform unconditional acts of affection toward her.

The message we get from Fireproof is that a man should do things like buy his wife flowers, make her romantic dinners, clean the house and a host of other acts of affection despite his wife’s continued sinful behavior including complete and utter disrespect, a generally critical and hostile spirit, neglect of her duties to the home, sexual denial and even an emotional affair.

The Biblical truth is that while God calls husbands to unconditionally love their wives he does not call them to unconditionally perform acts of affection toward them in spite of their rebellious and sinful behavior or to cause them to turn from their sinful behavior.

What did God do in the Old Testament when his wife acted in rebellion against him, disrespected him and she became unfaithful like Catherine did here in this story?

“41 They will burn your houses with fire and execute judgments on you in the sight of many women. Then I will stop you from playing the harlot, and you will also no longer pay your lovers. 42 So I will calm My fury against you and My jealousy will depart from you, and I will be pacified and angry no more. 43 Because you have not remembered the days of your youth but have enraged Me by all these things, behold, I in turn will bring your conduct down on your own head,” declares the Lord God, “so that you will not commit this lewdness on top of all your other abominations.” – Ezekial 16:41-43 (NASB)

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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.


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