by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide
All quotes from the book are in blue text
Chapter 8 is nearly over! Hooray!
We’ve got some truly Botkinesque themes today. Stop reading if covert incest bothers you.
Women are dumb. Really dumb. Like amazingly dumb. That’s ok because God gave us men to keep us on the straight and narrow!
- The ordained authority in a woman’s life is God according to the Bible. See Abigail or Mary for details.
- In my Bible, the two verses I know of that talk about submission of wives to husband use the terms “to your husband”. I found the term “to your own husband” in KJV. This leads me to assume that the term “own” is a holdover from older translation methods from Greek to English. Either way, notice that the verse is about submission to husband – not your father.
- This is another place where the covert incest perpetrated by Geoffrey Botkin oozes out. I never would have placed any emphasis on the use of the term “your own husband”. The Botkin Sisters, however, believe that women are too stupid or naive to determine the actual motives behind a man’s behavior. Where did they get that idea? Presumably from their father.
- The God that the Botkin family believes in is quite stupid Himself. He creates women with an internal drive to help men. This drive is SO strong that women will help any man achieve his goals regardless of his relationship to her. The only safe way to protect these women from their overly hyped up helping drive is to keep them safely tied to an adult male. (If this sounds familiar, it is. This is the same description of the imprinting instinct in most birds including ducklings. Yes, women are as able to deal in the world as day-old ducklings according to the Botkin Sisters.) Apparently, the God who created the entire universe couldn’t work out the correct level of drive to help men in women.
“In His kindness, God also gave daughters a specified male protector, leader, and head: their fathers. There’s an example of what this looks like in another fascinating law that God gave regarding daughters:
- I don’t think that Numbers 30 is about protecting the poor women from stupid choices; it’s about limiting the timeline that the male authorities in a patriarchial system has to override decisions made by women.
- If women were absolutely unable to make sensible choices in the absence of men, God/Moses/Israel would have simply outlawed women from making vows or pledges. The Bible has plenty of forbidden activities already so we know that that option was available.
- Instead, fathers/husbands who want to reject a vow or pledge made by their female dependents must reject the vow or pledge when they first hear that it has been made. Presumably, this prevents men from abusing the system by having women make promises then rejecting the promise or vow once the other party has fulfilled their end of the bargain.
- I thought it odd that the Botkin Sisters allude to the fact that husbands can override the vows of their wives, but fail to cite that passage. I figured that this was simply an oversight until I read all of Numbers 30. There are two things that stood out to me:
- The section on husbands and wives really hammers home the idea of limiting the time line that that the husband can reject the vow. The timeline idea is referred to SEVEN times between verses 6-15.
- The Botkin Sisters drive home over and over and over that women are ALWAYS under the authority of men. ALWAYS. The problem is that verse 9 states that widowed and divorced women are free to make their own vows without having a male authority that can override their choice.
- Note the covert incest oozing out again: Men exploit women. Women can only be protected from exploiting men by male family members. This is a sick worldview that paints women as victims. Most men do not exploit women. Women can protect themselves from men who want to exploit them by using the brains God gave them.
- I haven’t read “Oliver Twist” in decades, but I remember that it was terrifyingly anti-Semitic. I was in “Oliver!” when I was in high school. As best I can remember, Oliver Twist bounces from orphanage to unstable parent figure to unstable parent figure. In the musical, the “best” parents who are around for any time are Fagin (with anti-Semitic slurs removed) who gives the boys food and shelter in return for pickpocketing and Nancy who acts as a mother figure towards Oliver before she’s beaten to death by Bill Sikes. Remind me which part of this story people are looking forward to be like as adults……
- Peter Pan is a legitimate reference for people who never want to grow up, but not really a parentless state. After all, Wendy Darling’s relationship with Peter begins with Wendy being a mother figure to Peter Pan and the Lost Boys.
- The Pirates of Penzance are adults. The lead character, Fredric was apprenticed to a pirate when his nursemaid misunderstood his father’s wish. (His father wanted him apprenticed to a river pilot, not a pirate.) During the musical itself, however, Fredric is 21 years old, but has only had 4 birthdays because he’s a Leap Day baby. Either way, it’s not about being parentless.
- I do think that parents – assuming that they are responsible and have their children’s best interest at heart – may need to discuss their concerns about a relationship where the significant other is narcissistic, chronically unemployable due to willful problems, seems to have a significant untreated mental illness, or poor compatibility when the relationship is moving towards marriage. Obviously, parents should bring up concerns about abusive signs regardless of the trajectory of the relationship. Unfortunately, this is NOT what Geoffrey Botkin did with his daughters.
- Geoffrey Botkin has systematically created a covert incest relationship with his daughters. When either of those two poor souls brought up the normal crushes that girls have, he responded by predicting that the guys would be unfaithful and the girls would be in dire poverty. That’s severely abnormal and very, very sick.
- Why would he do this? Geoffrey Botkin has recreated a cult in his own home. He has convinced his daughters that men are evil, women are too stupid and emotional to see how evil men are and he’s the only person that can protect them. Anna Sofia and Elizabeth have been systematically crippled in their interactions with men by their father so that Anna Sofia and Elizabeth will be reliant on him forever.
Well, this chapter is over. The next chapter is much lighter – the Botkin girls teach us how to talk to boys!
Mel is a science teacher who works with at-risk teens and lives on a dairy farm with her husband. She blogs at When Cows and Kids Collide She is also an very valuable source of scientific information for us here at NLQ. Mel is also blessed with the ability to look at the issues of Quiverfull with a rational mind and break them down to their most basic of elements.
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