Editor’s note: Here we are once again, a husband that is no husband, he’s more an overgrown man-child that wants a momma to wipe his bottom and fix him snacks, yet we women are being told we should shut up and just be more and more submissive. Has any man ever been cured of acting like a selfish entitled child by his wife submitting more?
I have actually known men personally who have done what your husband has done staying home playing video games while they send their wives out to work or they depend on other relatives to financially support their laziness. It infuriates me when I see this. I believe it also infuriates God when men do this. While laziness is sin when it happens with men or women – I believe it is especially heinous when it happens in men. God created men to be ambitious and work and make their mark on the world.
A man who has no drive to work is like a woman who has no drive to have children. It completely goes against the gender directives that God designed in men and women.
All husbands have failings in different areas just as all wives have failings in different areas. You are right that Christian husbands have a responsibility to discipline their wives for their sinful behaviors as your father should have done with your mother.
But while husbands and wives may sin against each other in countless ways God does not allow divorce for just any sin.
The story you describe is painful to imagine any Christian wife going through. But things like a husband lying to his wife, not fulfilling his promises (even denying you a child) or not spiritually leading as he should does not give a woman the right to divorce her husband.
There are many tough marriage situations where a wife is called to practice the I Peter 3:1-2 principle toward her husband who is being disobedient to God:
“1Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.” – I Peter 3:1-2 (NASB)
So sometimes as tough as an ungodly husband may make things on his wife – she is still called to continue to serve him, reverence him and love him. In some cases women can even win their husbands to obedience to God by their continued submission and service to their husbands.
No, Larry, a woman that does every single thing in a marriage, from making the money to raising the children, is better off kicking the deadbeat to the curb. At least it lessens her responsibilities to have one less mouth to cater to.
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