by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy – Rising to the Challenge
Editor’s note: This letter and response is a good example of one truism in Quiverfull. No matter what a woman does she cannot win ever, everything she does is wrong, wrong, wrong, even if she’s obeying some previous instruction from the same cultural enforcer. No wonder antidepressant use is so much higher in religious communities! This is enough to drive anyone to despair!
First we start with a ‘Pearl letter’
Dear Mrs. Pearl,
“Greetings in the name of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. I want to say thank you for your magazine. I look forward to it.
I have a question. I am struggling to make God-honoring decisions while still being submissive to my husband. He wants to send our son and two daughters to public school. This scares me as I remember just how evil it is. And now he tells me he wants me to enroll in college and get a degree so I can have something meaningful in my life. This hurts me because as a pastor in training he should be encouraging women to be keepers at home. Why?
How can any of this be of God? How do I submit to my husband’s desires and still follow God?
And then Debi starts to respond.
Consider what your husband’s motivation might be. Let’s assume that he wants what is best for both you and the children. He wants you to grow and be productive, and he wants the children to be well educated. For instance, your husband might see that you are not doing any schooling with your three- and four-year-olds. He notices that your time is maxed out by housework and chores that have no long term value. Does he have reason to think you will be stressed or incapable if you try to do more? If this is the case, he may need to see you growing and the children learning before he can commit his children to homeschooling.
QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.
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