Quoting Quiverfull: No Fat Kids Allowed?

Quoting Quiverfull: No Fat Kids Allowed? June 15, 2016

quotingquiverfullby Shoshanna Pearl Easling from No Greater Joy – Why I Don’t Have Fat Kids

Editor’s note: This was published this very morning and as soon as my eyes fell upon the title my mouth popped open and I gagged. How horrible she is both fat shaming and parent shaming. Isn’t it possible she has thin children because her husband is a lousy supporter? Is she one of the daughters living in grinding poverty with a man that either refuses to work or works very little? I will agree that it is important to teach your children nutrition and to feed them properly, but this, there are no words. Michael Pearl’s abusive nature unto the next generation. 

When I was a kid I was trained to eat to live, not live to eat. I was taught that food makes your body healthy or unhealthy, lean or fat, that overeating was gluttony and gross. My dad was very pointed, descriptive, and honest about biblical and life principles, and I am so thankful for that.

As a child I knew I would never be fat because I would stop eating before that happened. Food is medicine. Just like my dad taught me not to run with a knife, he also taught me to think before I put food in my mouth. Now, I love good food, and I love to cook. I love going to nice restaurants and eating gourmet food. But even though I love good food, I was taught to think before I eat, so it is not a sacrifice to put the fork down. It is a choice! Every day I teach my children about nutrition, health, and self-control, and their lives are better because of it. They are strong, happy, healthy, and beautiful kids!

Maybe as a child someone didn’t teach you this principle, but it is not too late! I encourage you to teach your children. Lead them by example! Help make your children strong, healthy, and confident by teaching them self-discipline. As parents we can teach and train our children and give them the tools they need to avoid a lifelong struggle with weight. Something that seems so small can make a huge impact in their life. Health, confidence, physical abilities, opportunities…the list goes on. Fight for your children and for their health. You can mold them just as I was molded and am molding my children. Be encouraged!

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  • Saraquill

    I remember Debi talking about a winter where there was so little to eat, the family depended on unwanted animal feed. From this, I’m guessing that Shoshanna was conditioned to be sparing with food that was scarce or nonexistent. It saddens me that she’s passing down the non-wisdom her parents drilled into her.

  • texassa

    Sex. Type of sex. Fatties. Clothing. Gardens. School. Television. Politics. Is there any aspect of life these people don’t feel they need to instruct each other on? The Christian way to poo, perhaps?

  • Nightshade

    ‘You can mold them just as I was molded…’ No. Dear sweet baby FSM, NOOO!

  • Friend

    This is hate speech.

  • Friend

    Some of them do preach that men have to pee standing up or they will go to hell for being too feminine.

  • Nea

    Replace “mold” with “beat” and it makes more sense.

  • Nea

    She was taught to eat what was in front of her or be beaten. To eat when and where her father decided without comment or be beaten. She watched her mother beg for food and get animal feed.

    I don’t care what she says here, what all the Pearl girls say elsewhere, constantly, shows that the whole damn family has food issues. Isn’t this the girl who melted down when asked to choose a meal?

    You can be skinny and still really screwed up about food. Skinny is not de facto healthy.

  • Anonyme

    Yep. Shoshanna’s husband asked here what restaurant she wanted to go to, and since she was “trained” to blind obedience and whipped for having an opinion or independent thought throughout her life, until marriage, the concept of being ASKED for input was more than foreign to her, it was literally shocking.

  • Nightshade

    I’m actually willing to cut Shoshanna a lot of slack because of the abuse she endured. But shitty advice is still shitty.

  • THERetroGamerNY

    Being a judgy know-it-all clearly is slimming.

  • persephone

    Shoshanna, hon, Golden Corral is not gourmet food.

  • Allison the Great

    The Squatty Potty is the devil! Look at that commercial! It’s pooping gay rainbow and that prince is eating it like ice cream!

    WARNING! This video is kind of weird, but it’s hilarious.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YbYWhdLO43Q

  • pinkie

    Don’t give the Pearls any ideas. :0

  • TLC

    Well, I hope for the sake of her and her kids, they never have a thyroid problem. Or diabetes. Or have to take medication that destroys your metabolism. Or marry people who want actual food to eat. Because if anyone in that family became overweight due to circumstances beyond their control, they’d probably be beaten to death.

    Ugh. She learned well from her parents how to nasty, critical, judgmental and condescending. Hope it feeds you and your family well, Shoshanna.

  • Baby_Raptor

    Do her kids even get medication? Doctors are evil secular people who believe things like “Animal feed isn’t nutritious for growing children.”

  • Baby_Raptor

    There are actually purported doctors who claim that the addiction to nicotine and cigarettes is all mental. Just tell yourself you aren’t addicted, your symptoms are all placebo effect and you’ll have no trouble quitting!

    Yeah. My “placebo effect” is REALLY realistic.

  • SAO

    I have two kids, whomI raised the same way. One stops eating when he’s full. He’s slender. The other loves food, likes to cook, experiments with new flavor combinations, from practically toddlerdom remembered places by the food there. Needless to say, she is not slender. I think it’s mostly a whole grab bag of genes from metabolism to taste buds to pleasure centers in the brain. In a world where treats aren’t ubiquitous and exercise didn’t require special effort, those genes wouldn’t be a problem.

  • pl1224

    Thanks Allison–I just snorted my whiskey nightcap out of my nose! That stuff stings. This video is beyond hilarious!!!

  • Petticoat Philosopher

    I’m like your second–I love food and cooking–but I was always thin as a rail as a kid and a teen and I’m still not what would be considered overweight at all. It’s just genes. It’s not “self-control” or discipline because I really don’t have much of that. I try to eat healthy, balanced meals but I don’t really watch calories and I pretty much eat what I want when I want to. There are people who are much more disciplined than I am (like, I could never handle what they do) and also much heavier and having more more “self-control” doesn’t make them thinner. If Shoshanna’s kids are thin, it certainly has nothing to do with any kind of moral virtue and it likely doesn’t even have to do with her parenting (although analyzing every bite of food you put into your mouth to make sure you don’t backslide into sin sure sounds like a great way to take the joy out of a meal.) Maybe they are just pre-disposed to being thin. You don’t get to use your kids’ body types as proof of your awesome parenting. That’s just freaking lazy.

  • Astrin Ymris

    The CPM abounds in judgemental and self-righteous attitudes– both of which were clearly condemned by Jesus before his death, without any need to cherry-pick a Bible verse and come up with a creative interpretation of it.

  • Nea

    Seriously.

  • Nea

    Or hypertension, in which you can be rail thin… and desperately, mortally ill with no symptoms.

    ETA: Malnutrition also keeps a person skinny. It also prevents growth spurts.

  • SAO

    Yes, I don’t know how many parents have smugly told me about their methods for ensuring that their kids are healthy, well-behaved, studious, athletic, and high-achieving. The younger parents are smugger, since their kids have had less time to demonstrate that outcomes are not strongly tied to parental ambition, at least not in an social circle where the parents’ education and goals for their kids are similar.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    LMAO! I love it!

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    Is Golden Corral even food at all or just weird cheap stuff from cans?

  • pagankitty

    I could see it. Only once a day (otherwise you were clearly engaging in gluttony), and you only have 5 minutes in the bathroom to get it done (lest you be a lazy, masturbator!). And leave the door unlocked so Daddy Dearest can make sure you’re not sinning at any point during the poo process.

  • Desiladygamer

    I don’t remember being taught this but clearing your plate and eating everything was something drummed into me. Combination of school/parents. There’s also something about wastage which I don’t like as an adult.

    It’s not so much a problem if you cook at home. It’s easier to store leftover Indian food, in the fridge/freezer. It isn’t so good if you are going into restaurants because portion sizes are usually so much bigger. The husband has to constantly tell me, “you can stop eating if you aren’t hungry”. But there’s something in me that feels like a failure if I don’t clear the plate.

    These things run deep.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    Yes they do! My husband and I just figured out that when we go out that we should cut our meal in half and take it with us for the next meal.

  • Astrin Ymris

    Re: “…These things run deep…”

    To this day, I’m afraid to try new foods because I have a subconscious conviction that if I do, I’ll be forced to eat a full serving of it, even if I hate it.

  • Michelle Singleton

    I call BS.

    When I was in kindy, I was rail thin. I was 5 and still wearing 24m clothes. The doctor that I had when we lived in Germany was concerned by how tiny I was. I wouldn’t eat a whole meal because I ate like a bird. He actually suggested that my parents have “grazing stations” of raisins, fruit, cheerios, etc so that I was getting enough calories.
    (I get their frustration with it. One of my twins is the exact same way…)
    Want to know what caused my obesity? Several things.
    It started the summer between 7th & 8th grade. We starved. Like, I remember eating our last onion, coated with cornmeal & baked. We dipped them into our last condiment – soy sauce. That was at the beginning of summer. By the time we got food again I had lost 30-40 pounds. My metabolism crashed. My body held onto every calorie, just in case.
    When I married my ex husband and went on birth control, the hormones didn’t do me any favors.

    I’d be willing to bet that the Pearl kids aren’t fat because they don’t eat very much because they can’t afford to and essentially do slave labor. It’s got nothing to do with being better than anyone else.

    I eat healthy. I love to cook. I exercised as much as I could, and I still hit 290 lbs. Because of my starvation history, my drs all agreed that gastric bypass was the only way I was going to loose weight. At the 2 year mark, I was down 140. I have been putting weight back on and was really ashamed. I hadn’t changed anything so I was confused. Turns out I am one of those people who biotin doesn’t like. One of the side effects is weight gain. Go figure.

  • texassa

    YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME. Even my jokes can’t be jokes because these people are so cray.

  • AuntKaylea

    I have both diabetes and a thyroid disorder.

    I wish I had a dollar for every time I was fat shamed for eating only a salad at church luncheons. Several times I was told I shouldn’t be eating at all. With all the pressure and perfectionism, and abuse, I spent my teen years bulimic and throwing up everything I ate, which just made all my other problems worse.

    There is no focus on health at all in these circles, just on one-upmanship.

  • Evelyn

    Not a joke. Zsu’s husband, I think it was.

  • brbr2424

    I love the opening paragraph. Grinding poverty can be great for the figure. It has to be the kind of sustained poverty, not a pot to piss in kind of poverty,

  • Patricia Lakin

    I love the squatty potty. Wish I had it when I was giving birth

  • B.E. Miller

    From Bad Preachers on YouTube…
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fc3gvJ_RPdE

  • Nightshade

    Dafuq did I just watch? LOL!!!

  • Jennifer

    When you were a kid, you ate possible cat food to survive. You’re not a role model.