by Matthew Jacobson from MatthewLJacobson.com – Modesty and What My 12 Year Old Son Has to do With How You Dressed Today
Editor’s note: Mr. Jacobson started off his essay bemoaning the ‘I’ll wear whatever I feel like’ movement, that is obviously some sort of backlash against the slut-shaming of the purity crowd. It is prime bikini season right now, which means it’s also prime Evangelical pearl-clutching and slut-shaming over clothing choices season. For once the Duggar family’s idea of shouting ‘Nike’ so that all the boys will stare at their shoes instead of revealed female flesh feels about a million times healthier than this dad’s ranting. A quick warning about his site, just going there to snatch a few quotes caused my browser and brand spanking new powerful computer to have seizures from the aggressive large amounts of flashware driven ads.
A couple of months ago he came to me, distraught that from seemingly nowhere, he was suddenly struck with a deep sense of awareness and interest in girls . . . and not just girls, generally, but very (very) specifically, right down to the curves . . . all of them.
I listened as he poured out his heart in confusion, embarrassment, and anguish. Then, I immediately hugged him and told him how great it all was.
“Son, your awakened interest in girls is completely normal, natural, and good. God made you this way. You’re in the process of becoming a man and I think that’s awesome!”
Now, about those “particulars”, and the argument that it’s all on the guy, or on the girl, as the case may be, I ask a simple question: Should young boys coming of age in our society bear all the responsibility for the moral struggles they face?
Does any degree of responsibility lay elsewhere?
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