Elie Wiesel Would Have Been Disappointed in You

Elie Wiesel Would Have Been Disappointed in You July 6, 2016

WhenChurchHurtsby Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts

I haven’t posted in awhile.  But the death of Elie Wiesel brought to mind this quote the spirit of which has always been at the forefront of my thoughts on my experience with spiritual abuse.

“We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented.” – Elie Wiesel

I am convinced that no one spoke up when we were told that we were no longer welcome at the church.  Sure, a couple of people spoke to me initially.  But no one spoke up.  No one took action.

And while they may think they were being “neutral” by not getting involved, the reality is that by not speaking up, by not stepping up and demanding that there be open and honest conversation about the years of abuse that I suffered, resulting in a God-honoring conclusion, people had taken a side: the side of the abusers.

That is why Elie Wiesel’s words are so true.  Neutrality is not truly neutrality.  Neutrality actually sides with the oppressor and encourages the tormentor.  I was tormented for years and part of the guilt lies with those who knew it was happening and didn’t speak up.  Guilt lies yet today with those who remained and continue to remain “neutral” – relying on “God” to “work it out.”

News flash:  Do you not know, dear Christian, that YOU are a temple of the living God and that His Holy Spirit dwells in YOU? (1 Cor. 3:16)  That God who dwells in you . . . may very well be the one that was/is supposed to “work it out.”

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Several years ago I was the victim of a most heinous form of abuse unlike anything I had ever thought possible. Not having been raised in a Christian home, my first experience with Christians and pastors had been one of joy, grace, fellowship, love, and delight. When faced with the horrors of having the very essence of who I was as a woman of faith stripped from me in what I can only describe as spiritual rape, I couldn’t comprehend what was happening. This was church, after all, and I believed that everything works together for good for those who love God. Somehow, it didn’t make sense that everything was not working together for good. When I was finally able to resign myself to the fact that God was not going to “work this out,” I made my escape and sought a safe haven. 
 
Little did I realize that I was going from the proverbial frying pan into the fire. Oh, how I tried to beat back the flames! Oh, how I prayed and pleaded for mercy, for grace, for a chance. “But hate is strong and mocks the song of peace on earth, good will toward” Ellen. 
 
He who began a good work . . . had forsaken me . . . and the silence was more than deafening . . . it was defeating. So intertwined were we, that as God went missing, so did Ellen. But I am nothing, if not tenacious.

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