by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding Fundamental
and appeared on my wall.
I have written on this subject earlier titled, “Stress, Pride, Shame and Frogs”. http://baptisttaliban.blogspot.com/2012/11/stress-pride-shame-and-frogs.html
It is vitally important that we learn the difference between the two and apply them appropriately since they each evoke such very opposing responses.
Shame = I am bad.“When we apologize for something we’ve done, make amends, or change a behavior that doesn’t align with our values, guilt – not shame – is most often the driving force… Guilt is just as powerful as shame, but its influence is positive while shame is destructive…
We live in a world where most people still subscribe to the belief that shame is a good tool for keeping people in line. Not only is this wrong, but it’s dangerous…In fact, shame is much more likely to be the cause of destructive and hurtful behaviors than it is to be the solution.
…[I]t is human nature to want to feel worthy of love and belonging. When we experience shame, we feel disconnected and desperate for worthiness…
If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive… Empathy is connection; it’s the ladder out of the shame hole.”
Brene’ Brown from her latest book, Daring Greatly
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