Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – A Woman’s Pride Kills Marriages?

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – A Woman’s Pride Kills Marriages? July 15, 2016

quotingquiverfullby April Cassidy of The Peaceful Wife – The Surprising Root of All Marriage Problems

Editor’s note: This list is not the list of a prideful person, it’s a list of red flags for a sociopath or narcissist! If you feel this way or you hear your spouse speaking that they believe these things it’s time for intensive therapy and some soul searching to see if this is something you can or cannot live with in  partner. So many times in evangelical fundamentalist quiverfull mental conditions are equated to a sinful attitude or sin nature when they are genuine mental illnesses. Sadly enough, many of these descriptors seems to fit the actions and behaviors of many in the faith towards unbelievers.

We can justify anything if we believe we know better than God does. Pride births every other wrong in our thoughts, words, and actions.

Pride is hideously ugly when we see it in other people – and yet, it can be so insidious in our own lives. We can have it – a lot of it – and not even see it. Pride tends to blind us to our own sin.


Let’s take a peak into a prideful spouse’s heart…

  • I’m always right.

  • I deserve to be waited on and served.

  • Other people, including my spouse, are here to do what I want them to do.

  • I’m better than my wife/husband is.

  • My will and my comfort are what is important.

  • It’s my way or the highway.

  • If you don’t meet my needs, I’ll find someone who will and I don’t care if it hurts God, you, or our family.

  • I will not forgive anyone. I deserve to hold grudges and be bitter.

  • If you hurt me, I am justified in retaliating in any way I see fit.

  • I want X, so you better make it happen.

  • People need me much more than they need God. I am the essential ingredient to the success of anything.

  • I have the wisdom that everyone else needs.

  • I want things for myself in this lifetime – treasure, fame, power, glory, attention, etc…

  • Change my spouse, Lord! He/she is not who I want him/her to be and that is inconvenient to me.

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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