Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1- Your Advice Got Me Shunned?

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1- Your Advice Got Me Shunned? July 29, 2016

quotingquiverfullby an unnamed Amish lady writing to Michael Pearl at No Greater Joy – From Our Mailbox A ‘Saved’ Amish Lady

Editor’s note: For once this might actually be one of the rare real letters to the Pearls. Kind of breaks my heart because after all of this in this part and the piece we’re posting in the morning Michael Pearl’s only advice were those scriptures that talk about rejoicing when you are rejected for following Jesus and that Jesus came to set brother against brother. No practical advice, no empathy, no understanding, just a pile of scriptures that basically say “Well what did you expect?” This is what toxic faith looks like.

We are Amish. A while back I read your article, “Learning from the Atheists.” And it happened to me! I didn’t know what it was; I had no idea anything could feel like this, but I knew for the first time I had peace, a presence, a newness; I mean everything looked new! I wasn’t afraid to die. I was constantly saying or thinking, “Thank you, Jesus.” I told my husband, but he thought it was a woman’s hormone thing and shrugged it off.

When my neighbor (Amish too) heard me telling about it, she said it had happened to her too and that you call it “getting saved.” I told everybody because it was the most wonderful thing that had ever happened to me. It was amazing to me that just understanding that Jesus took my place as a sinner so that I could be forgiven could be so life changing. I thought everyone would be delighted to learn about this wonderful gift. Instead, I started getting visits from concerned leadership and family. As I said, we are Amish. My husband is one of the preachers, and having an overzealous wife really puts him in the hot seat, so you can see my talking about Jesus all the time really upsets him.

After a lot of embarrassing confrontations I was shunned, which means I was basically shut off from my family and friends. It would have been bearable, but I knew they would not even open my letters, so now there was no one to tell.

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • BCH

    So the Amish don’t like evangelists either. Good for them!

  • Nea

    So Mikey doesn’t mind that this woman tried to preach to her preacher husband? That she doesn’t believe what her husband told her to believe? That she wouldn’t obey her husband? Debi’s not in there calling her ugly and warning of divorce, which would be worse than shunning in her eyes?

  • Nightshade

    Of course Mikeyboy would be fine with a woman sharing her (different from his) religious experience with him, right?…right??!

  • persephone

    That letter doesn’t sound Amish to me. Not an expert or anything, but the language just doesn’t seem to fit. Also, how did she read the article? Some Amish have cell phones, but they normally avoid anything but the basics, and computers don’t fall into that. I also find it odd that an Amish person would be in a place where they might find a printed copy of the Pearls’ BS.

    It would not surprise me that the Pearls would happily make up a letter tooting their own horns for getting an Amish person shunned by introducing that person to the Truth(tm).

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    Could be another Pearl fake letter. why would an Amish even read their magazine even if they found it on the ground

  • hotapplepie

    I’m not sure if the letter is fictional or not, because I don’t have any Amish friends, but I do come from an even stricter Anabaptist upbringing and I have seen many people ‘shunned’ for being ‘saved’. I can’t speak for the Amish, but for the Hutterites, Micheal Pearl seems to be some kind of demi-god who has all of life’s answers. I have seen copies of the NGJ magazine in many homes, even if extremely oppressive, sheltered communities. They all looove his teachings on ‘child training’ because spanking is the most common form of discipline used within the community. I’ve even heard some people say that they give their kids preventative spankings, as a sort of deterrent or reminder against sinning.
    As far as the whole ‘born again’ or ‘saved’ thing goes, the Hutterites quickly silence anyone who dares mention the idea of a spiritual re-birth as mentioned in the New Testament. My own mother, as well as my aunt, was called in front of the elders and church at our community to renounce their salvation experience. My mother narrowly escaped being shunned because my father pleaded with her to comply. My aunt wouldn’t agree to stop talking about it, so she was shunned and consequently eventually left with her family.
    I know that whole communities of up to 250 people have been thrown out of the Hutterite church for holding onto the unapproved doctrine of salvation through Jesus Christ.
    All this being said, I wouldn’t be surprised if the letter was genuine. Communities like the Amish and Hutterites don’t allow for any free thinking.