by Raegan Thornhill from Delighted in Him – Wait for the Man Who Preaches You the Gospel
Editor’s note: The purity and courtship crowd come up with some of the most confining rules for friendships and relationships. We see how well this works out when you look at the large number of unmarried daughters like the Botkin girls and look at the fact that Christians have higher divorce rates than non-believers. Why not base your relationship on mutual interests, love and attraction and not worry so much about if you are being lead to Christ?
Ladies, I’m going to say this as bluntly as I can: if the man you are dating is not a Christian, he is not the man for you.
Trust me, I get it. I’ve made up these excuses numerous times to why I should keep dating guys who were not leading me in the right direction.
“He says He’s a Christian.”
“He has a favorite Bible verse.”
“He goes to church.”
I would compromise my beliefs in order to have a temporary comfort. My flesh was saying, “This guy is showing interest in you… What’s dating him going to hurt?” I got wrapped up in relationships and feelings when I knew the end of the road was near, and there was no commitment heading toward marriage. I may have thought I “loved” them, but the reality is, my heart was in the wrong place. You cannot know love without knowing Christ. So, ladies, let me say this: if he says he loves you, but he doesn’t know Christ, if Christ is not his first love, then he is deceiving you. It might be a worldly love, but it will never compare to Christ’s love, which is given to us through Him and only Him.
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