Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Online Dating Advice

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Online Dating Advice August 3, 2016

AnsweringAnother installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.

Online dating advice?

I have read the Preparing book and know that it warns of the dangers of online/texting relationships, which I totally agree with, having seen a good friend suffer greatly in that kind of relationship. However, I know the book also speaks of couples who got to know one another before actually meeting in person and how this was blessed by God. I am 24 years old, and after seeking the advice of my parents and many other godly people, as well as much prayer, I joined an online dating site earlier this month. I knew that I did NOT want to do online dating – I was hoping it might be a place to MEET a guy and then get to know him in other ways, since I had yet to meet any potential husbands anywhere else in my circles.  I decided to wait for a guy to email me first, which happened a few days after I went online. I asked right away if we could email each other instead of instant messaging, which he readily agreed to. I also asked if we could keep our emails to one or two a day. We have been emailing at that rate for almost a week now. I’ve been asking him a lot of questions and trying to keep things friendly but not too personal, and so far I think we both feel that we would like to go further in getting to know each other. He lives about 45 min. away from me.  The plan I had in mind was to begin talking to each other on the phone verses just emailing, because you can learn more about a person through hearing their voice, and then to meet in person. However, is it forward of me to suggest that we talk on the phone – should I wait to see if he suggests it? I would really like to get away from this only being an email relationship before things get (too) emotional, because of course, this guy could be making up everything he’s saying. And then, how do we meet? I don’t want to go meet a total stranger by myself, but having my whole family around the whole time seems pretty pressured and awkward, especially since we’re older…has anyone been down this road? Any ideas? I’ve been praying contently and giving all of this to God – I want to be wise and follow His leading!

Isn’t she sort of putting the cart before the horse considering they’ve only been emailing a week and she’s already trying to figure out if he is The One and how to meet him in person. Several folks mentioned bringing others with her to meet him. What advice would you give this eager young woman?

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