Questioning The Pearls – Who Can I Turn to For Advice?

Questioning The Pearls – Who Can I Turn to For Advice? August 21, 2016

QuestioningthePearlsFor well over a year we’ve been running a second Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ on Sundays, filled with questions by young ladies trying to get ready for marriage. Since we’ve run through many of the questions on their site it’s time to shift Sundays to something else, like perhaps examining the cornucopia of probably fake emails and questions that Michael and Debi Pearl of No Greater Joy post on their website and the possibly poisonous answers they give.

Original post is here.

“We young mothers desperately need guidance from a mature spiritual woman in how to nurture our children. On every side we are bombarded with one group saying we should carry our baby around in a sling and keep it with you constantly, sleep with it and don’t spank it. On the other side there are those that say, ‘Never let the child fall asleep while you are holding it, don’t rock it to sleep. Don’t sleep with it because it will be too dependent on you, and let it cry during the night when it wakes up so it can learn to sleep through the night without eating.’
Of course, there are others somewhere along the swinging pendulum, but you are the first I have heard that matched my gut instincts, that said the baby needs much nurturing and fellowship but also training and discipline. I am in desperate need of guidance so that I don’t reinforce bad habits my daughter may have already developed. ”

Dear Young Mothers, I would suggest you seek out advice from older grandmothers in your community. I would not look for “spiritual” type women, but just some plain, old lady that has a sense of humor and has maintained a respect and reverence for her husband all her married life (very, very important). Don’t ask her to baby sit, and don’t take your children over to her house, but just call her and ask her, “How do you cook dried black beans and rice?” While you are talking, ask her a simple question about how she handled a certain problem when her daughter was a baby.

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