Quoting Quiverfull: Do These Biblical Marriage Rules Magically Apply to Both Sexes?

Quoting Quiverfull: Do These Biblical Marriage Rules Magically Apply to Both Sexes? August 2, 2016

quotingquiverfullby Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles – The 12 Required Attributes of Marital Love

Editor’s note: Not linking directly to Larry since he’s clearly getting off on the idea of extra hit numbers. This comes from a long post about what married people need to feel for each other. He’s using gender neutrality in the list but how many of you think that in Larry’s mind having a penis exempts you from the entire list? This is not a bad list, it’s just very unlikely he means for men to behave this way towards their wives.



  1. GIVING my body to my spouse to meet their sexual needs.

  2. PATIENCE toward my spouse in regard to their faults.

  3. KINDNESS toward my spouse in words and actions. It is kindness in caring for the physical needs of my spouse whether in taking care of them when they are sick, making sure they are feed, or meeting their sexual needs.

  4. SACRIFICING my own well-being for the sake of my spouse’s well-being.

  5. HONORING my spouse’s God given gender role in our marriage.

  6. FORGIVING my spouse for the offenses they commit against me.

  7. TRUTHFUL with my spouse. This does not mean brutal honesty – you know the old line “do I look fat in this dress?”. It does not mean we have to say every thought that comes into our mind, or how we feel about every given situation.  But what it does mean is not telling lies to hide our sin from our spouse. It also means that sometimes we have to do as the Bible says and “speak the truth in love” to our spouse when we believe they are acting sinfully, as love does not rejoice in evil.

  8. PROTECTING my spouse’s person and reputation.

  9. TRUSTING that my spouse has my best interests at heart and in the absence of evidence to the contrary believing what my spouse tells me about events that may have occurred.

  10. HOPING in my spouse’s abilities, even when they seem to lack in a certain area. It always keeps hope that they will succeed or that they will improve. This is an encouraging type of hope that encourages our spouse in whatever they set out to do.

  11. ENDURING through arguments or disagreements, health problems and physical changes to mine or my spouse’s body. It endures through job loss, economic status changes or changes in housing.

  12. CONSTANT, because it is based on a conscious life choice, and not upon my feelings towards my spouse at any given moment.


QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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