by Michael and Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy Magazine – Seven Pearls for Finding a Happy Marriage
Editor’s note: Skipping the next ‘pearl’ – which was forgive each other. Anyone that’s been married any length of time can tell you that not taking offense, learning to say I’m sorry and forgiving the other partner are essential in good marriages. But even those essentials are off the table if one partner is abusive. If someone is beating you, or perhaps just driving you to crab and cook without a moment of downtime you should just get the heck away from them, not worry about forgiveness or taking offense.
But this little toxic part really blows my mind. It’s that horrible thought control run amok that is practiced in Quiverfull. Sometimes daydreams can be a refreshing escape from the harsh realities of day to day without blowing up your life like its suggested below. Daydreaming can be the creative fuel that drives arts like writing, painting, and a host of other arts. Bolding is from the original. What do you think?
Don’t live in a daydream of thinking you could do better with a different spouse. Many simply believe a lie, and their thought life slowly erodes their real life. It is time to be honest with yourself. You are not a wonderful, beautiful, craved-after world-changer married to a deadbeat. Rather your daydreams are just silly, embarrassing sin. It is Satan’s ludicrous implant to make you believe you have missed the life you were meant to have. Such an imagination breeds discontent. Get control of what you think about. STOP daydreaming and start thinking constructive, practical, wholesome, creative, and godly things. Your thoughts are the seeds of tomorrow’s harvest. Your spouse is not holding you back from being all that you were meant to be. Your own foolish thought life is what holds you in bondage, and the devil sees, laughs, mocks, and continues to feed your foolish ideas. Get honest and your marriage will prosper. Know this: soul mates (people who seem to mesh, create, thrive, and grow) are not born, they are crafted. They become what they are together by choosing to focus on making each other happy and successful.
QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.
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