Quoting Quiverfull: Your Primary Identity is as a Mother?

Quoting Quiverfull: Your Primary Identity is as a Mother? August 18, 2016

quotingquiverfullby Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies – Your Identity

Editor’s note: Nancy is at it again, claiming that our only God-given role in this world is as a walking uteri. Anything else is ‘denying our identity’. I don’t think any of this is as simple as Nancy tries to claim. Most of us wear a large variety of different roles through our days and the scope of our lives. Some of those roles might be motherhood, but not all of them. Her words even ignore the roles that righteous women in the Bible fulfilled, like Lydia of the purple cloth, or the women who traveled with and supported the ministry of Jesus, or even the unnamed Proverbs 31 woman who was buying and selling in the marketplace. Why limit yourself to one role?

We expect a male to walk in the identity of a male–showing strength and offering protection to women and children. We expect fathers to have the identity of a father and take the responsibility of providing a home, embracing and providing for children, and being the leader in the family.

What about the mother? To say we do not have an identity as a mother is to go against everything God says. It goes against the way He created us. God created women with a womb and breasts to embrace, nurture, and nourish life. Being female and to embrace the way God created us is our true identity. To resist motherhood and embracing children and to oppose the great career of homemaking is to deny the identity God mandated at the very beginning of creation (Genesis 3:20; Psalm 113:9; and Titus 2:4, 5).

You do not negate your identity as a mother because of your identity in Christ. Rather, because Christ indwells you, your motherhood is enhanced, intensified, and abundantly more joyful, overcoming, and glorious! When Christ dwells in you, He changes how you think and everything you do, but He doesn’t take away your identity of motherhood, because He gave it to you in the first place!

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • AuntKaylea

    I read this and cringed. I cannot tell how many times I have been made to feel less than human because I could not have children. I spent years feeling guilty for wanting to get married. I used to spiral into depression every year at mother’s day because I felt like a failure because of a medical problem I’ve had my whole life.

    This kind of equating the identity of female to primarily motherhood is not only toxic, but is heresy. I am no less female or feminine for not being able to have children. I am no less of a wife to my husband. I am no less valued by Christ, nor less of a Christian.

    I wish I could tell Nancy to put away the judgmental yardstick and stop trying measure the fruit of my life like the number of her children, that job belongs to God alone. Perhaps He found me strong enough spiritually to be called to be both barren and faithful. I have come to embrace it as a gift to be so free. Nancy (and anyone else) doesn’t get to decide that God got it wrong.

    And I can only be thankful that I was spared having a life like Nancy’s.

  • TLC

    The whole time I was reading her rant, I was thinking about couples who can’t have children. It’s not always about the woman. Does Nancy dare to tell a man he has no identity in Christ because he’s infertile?

    Hugs to you. Have been down the infertility road and the road of being treated like crap by fundagelicals because I don’t fit their “ideal” (I am single and divorced.)

  • Astrin Ymris

    How come men can “embrace their identity as a father” and hold down a full-time job at the same time, but not women?

  • pagankitty

    I can’t wait for her companion piece about how guys have testicles and thus must spend all day shooting their load!! That’s up next, right? It’s not just women whose lives revolve around their genitals and secondary sexual characteristics, right?

  • ConcepcionImmaculadaPantalones

    There was a news article (forget where it was exactly) about an infertile man cutting off his wife’s hands because she wasn’t bearing him children. There wasn’t any mention of him being ok with her being impregnated by another man, so why he’d do such a horrific thing when it’s his infertility that is preventing her from bearing his children….mind boggling.

  • This is actually fodder for several rude and improper jokes.

  • Yeah, I’m worth nothing in Nancy’s world. And I has some measure of hope there for the QF crowd for awhile, but now I am too old and unable. It’s so lovely to be thought of as a useless waste of humanity by people who claim to serve God.

  • MillyPierce
  • Allison the Great

    This! I’ve always wondered the same thing. They can’t come up with an intelligent answer to that question, either.