Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Talk About Your Brokenness!?

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Talk About Your Brokenness!? September 16, 2016

quotingquiverfullby Lori Alexander from Always Learning – Sharing Our Brokenness With Others

Editor’s note: What?!?!? Now we’re being told that admitting to imperfection or listening to the imperfections of others is a sin? These people has some of the most twisted horrible toxic logic of all time. How is admitting where we are in the moment a sin? Jesus didn’t tell us to go out there and brag about how together and perfect we are at all. He preached humbleness, reality, truth. But the female cultural enforcers cannot be having people being honest and real, can they, or it might expose the broken down system they follow is riddled with hideous flaws.

Have you noticed how popular among Christians it is to write and speak about their brokenness? A woman shared an article in the chat room called, “The Very Worse Trend Ever.” Women bragging about having messy homes, burnt dinners, and anything else they can think of that they failed at so they can help other women feel content knowing that even these big name, popular female writers struggle in the same areas that they do.

Is this what we, as Christian, are called to do? These women are admitting to us that they aren’t perfect. Yes, we know this. No one is perfect even if they act like they are. We all have struggles and hard times when we fail at what we want to be and do. However, in God’s Word, we are told to encourage and exhort one another daily. Paul said he disciplined his body and wouldn’t allow his body to have control and disqualify him from the race set before him. He told us to follow the examples of those who are living godly lives.

I have been told that I make women feel guilty and I have no right to do this since I have failed in areas that I teach: working when I had a child and being an unsubmissive wife. I have been very honest in my failures and what I have learned to become what the Lord has called me to do. I take seriously the command to exhort one another daily.

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully

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  • Nea

    “Wah! Someone criticized me! They said that I wasn’t fit to harangue others! Other women are totally worse than me! Waaahhhhhhh!”

  • Astrin Ymris

    Women sharing their problems freely leads to them realizing “If so many other women are struggling with this, maybe there’s something wrong with the institution!”

    Neither the Religious Right nor the Corporate Right wants anyone thinking about reforming the system.

  • Karen the rock whisperer

    Last paragraph: “I have been very honest in my failures…” wait, wasn’t that what she said NOT to be? Can’t have it both ways, lady.

  • Mel

    Since when does burnt dinners and messy homes equate to brokenness? I can’t think of a particular Bible quote that puts that into the sin category.

  • Stephanie Rice

    Don’t have faults, flaws, or messes. And if you do, don’t ever talk about them. Don’t be authentic or real or human. -Things Jesus Never Said

  • persephone

    It just chaps my hide when they hold Paul up as an example. Beyond broad, general information, all we really know about him is what Paul himself wrote. For all we know, he was buggering slave boys in back rooms. He didn’t have kids; he didn’t have a wife; two things incredibly rare in Jewish culture.

  • Aimee Shulman

    Paul talked about his own flaws and how he was always failing to live
    up to the standards that he set for himself, saying things like “For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do–this I keep on doing.” Guess Lori must think those verses should be taken out of the New Testament since everyone is morally obligated to lie and pretend be literally perfect at all times.

  • jennabobenna

    It is a studied phenomenon in the era of social media that we are quick to share only the “good” parts of life and not the “bad” which leads people to feel badly about themselves when they feel like everyone else is perfect and killing it as they struggle. We don’t realize in practice, even if we know it on an intellectual level, that people are not the perfect portrayals of themselves they put on social media. The trend of sharing our flaws seeks to mitigate that effect, and I don’t see how that is a bad thing. I lost almost a hundred pounds this past year, and I’ve made a point of sharing posts that chronicle not only the good but also the bad because I know there are women who see those posts that need to hear they’re doing fine and they deserve to feel beautiful and confident even as they struggle. Being human is hard enough without making it an exercise in perfection.

  • Astrin Ymris

    And she received criticism, which fundgelicals often perceive as “persecution”. Ergo, being honest is bad. *rolls eyes*