Quoting Quiverfull: Dress Yourself Out of Depression?

Quoting Quiverfull: Dress Yourself Out of Depression? September 21, 2016

quotingquiverfullby Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies – Ready To Go

Editor’s note: Nancy is saying this to mothers, but from here it reads like some sort of perhaps advice to depressed ladies. Get up and get dressed. Don’t drag around in your bathrobe and nightgown! Tell yourself how hap-hap-happy you are! Deny your reality, deny that you’re so depressed that going back to bed seems like a great option not long after you get up. Paste on that grin!

Dear mother, you are in the most power-packed and influential career in the nation. When you get up each morning, get dressed accordingly. Don’t wander out in your bathrobe–you can’t work in your bathrobe. Get dressed and ready for your great job for the day. Not only put on your clothes, but put on the right attitude.

Start the day confessing, “I love being a mother. I am in the greatest career in the nation. The children and I are going to have a great day today.”

Now you are dressed. You have the right attitude and confession. You’re ready to go!

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • Astrin Ymris

    I’m beginning to think that every member of the CPM lives in the state of denial. “Ignore that elephant in the living room, and vacuum the carpet anyway! If you love Jesus enough, there won’t be any elephant turds clogging your vacuum!”

  • Nightshade

    I’m going to say there’s a tiny grain of truth here. Getting dressed and realizing that you look good-or at least presentable in civilized society-can make you feel better and more ready to get your day’s activities done. I work from home, and while I can work in my jammies I don’t, and it makes a difference to me. BUT…no matter how great you look in your nice clothes, it’s not going to fix serious issues or real depression. Nancy seems to be into denying that problems actually exist, rather than acknowledging and trying to fix them.

  • texassa

    Yep, that’s exactly how I read it, too.

  • Mel

    I love how Nancy thinks that a positive affirmation can affect not only the affirmer’s day, but the day of their kids.

    Basic life truth: You cannot control anyone else’s life.

  • Nea

    This from someone whose son is crippled and whose grandson is dying (and whose adopted daughter is missing). Is there an affirmation that makes all that disappear?

  • Nea

    But she’s going to try… or throw the kid out.

  • zardeenah

    How does my beehive go with this vacuum cleaner? I want to look just like those fabulous girls in the Hoover advertisements!

  • ConcepcionImmaculadaPantalones

    As long as there are no actual bees involved, you’re a-ok! 🙂

  • ConcepcionImmaculadaPantalones

    I find that I can prepare documents, contact clients, and everything else that needs to be done for my legal practice that is done from my home office (when I need to meet with other attorneys or clients I ‘rent’ a conference room usually, in the offices of one of the two mentors I have had since law school.) all while wearing yoga pants and a t-shirt. I work regardless of whether I put on ‘acceptable to be seen in public’ clothing or not, and things get done on time.

  • Nightshade

    Whatever works for the individual! I’ve known people who won’t start work until they’re completely dressed in office-style garb complete with makeup and nice shoes, even when they’re working from home, and some who do work in PJs. Different comfort levels for different people. My ‘getting dressed’ for work usually is a graphic t-shirt-often one I’ve decorated myself-and comfy pants, but good enough that I can answer the door without hiding behind it.

  • AnonCar

    I find that when I’m going to be working around the house (cleaning/mowing/whatever) I am more productive before I’ve showered and dressed and whatnot. I don’t see the point in putting on even halfway decent clothes and deodorant if I’m just going to get sweaty, nasty and dirty right away again. If I’m not doing housework right away on the weekends, I’ll shower and be in civilized clothes within a reasonable amount of time after breakfast. There’s no point in putting on decent clothes for breakfast anyway because my female cat sits on a chair next to me at the table and chews/claws at my clothing. Better she ruins pajamas than good things.

    Edit: Long way around to say I prefer to dress for the work.

  • AnonCar

    Those must be the “Before” pictures. I want to see the “After” pictures when they’re all done vacuuming the floors and furniture and lugging that big heavy thing all around the house in the middle of the summer.

  • ConcepcionImmaculadaPantalones

    I keep hoping to have the opportunity to scare some missionaries by answering the door before I’ve had the necessary amount of caffeine – sadly, they don’t come to the door that early if they make it past the fences and gates. 😛 My HOA seems to be a very rare stop though.

    I wear a bra during work hours and when I leave the house, what else can be asked of me!! 😉

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    You sound like me! Enough caffeine must go in before ANY clothing goes on no matter what Nancy Campbell thinks. And yeah, the bra is strictly work/leaving house. Anything else has less to do with depression or being hap hap happiest perfection mom and are all about me being comfortable. Anyone that watches my Facebook Live video reads of Ohlman’s book can attest to the fact that I live in billowy beach wear in the summer.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    Summer it’s a long floaty beach dress. Winter leggings and tunic sweater. I am all about the comfort..But I have worked places that have crazy formal dress standards. I’m just trying to avoid sweating to death from hot flashes now.

  • Nightshade

    And the really crazy thing here is that we’ve all figured out what works for us. No Nancy needed!

  • zardeenah

    Still perfect! Haven’t you heard? Hairspray used to be magic back then.

  • AnonCar

    Hair might be perfect, but I’d bet the rest of her looks a hot mess from sweating her keester off.