Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Blogging Is IGNORING Your Family?

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Blogging Is IGNORING Your Family? September 29, 2016

quotingquiverfullby Lori Alexander from Always Learning – Blogging and Neglecting Your Family

Editor’s note: Oh this is just too toxic to completely unpack in one posting, but it’s giving off the vibe that Lori thinks only older ladies can or should blog because she’s feeling threatened in some way. Huge followings? Books? Touring the country giving speeches? Sounds more like the Green Eyed Monster of envy than any real worry about the unBiblicalness of blogging. What do you think?

Oh the sweet, sweet irony that she’s using her blog to tell others not to blog. The cognitive dissonance is so strong it burns!

Here’s what puzzles me about Lori Alexander and her blog. For some years she posted very sporadically, now she’s posting once or twice a day. What is driving this sudden change? Is she trying to make a move to do the huge following/book writing/speeches thing herself? Her posts are not teaching or edifying, there’s nothing encouraging or uplifting about them. They are always grounded in the snide cruel putting down of others, making others feel bad about themselves in some way. 

God specifically states that leaders in the church shouldn’t be young so they won’t be puffed up with pride; Not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil (1 Timothy 3:6). A novice is “a person new to or inexperienced in a field or situation.” I read blogs written by young women with huge followings and they write books and tour the country giving speeches. I see a problem with this and one of my friends did too. She wrote me this text:

” I read ______ blog post and, oh my, that woman needs some serious conviction and repentance. It’s embarrassing to see a Christian mom so irresponsible and unconcerned about her lack of stewardship over her household and children. And she gives women with more than two children a bad name and is feeding into people’s idea that they shouldn’t have multiple children because they won’t be able to handle it. How can she so proudly display her sin for all to see? She needs to stop spending her time blogging, speaking, and writing and fulfill her role as a wife and mom. She absolutely does have the time and energy to be a godly mother, but she decides to spend her energies on people outside her home at the expense of her family.

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • Nea

    “I am an authority because I say so! How DARE younger women be competition — and more successful than me?”

    And quoting that nasty, judging text isn’t idle gossip HOW, Lori?

  • Stephanie Rice

    I don’t think the part about her just now posting every day is quite accurate. I spent a couple years intensely following this woman and she has a new post every day at 9AM EST, like clockwork. This has been the case since about 2012, I believe. Even when she was hospitalized, she had her husband posting. It’s the same 5 topics ad nauseum, with a giant dollop of shame to go with it. I had to quit following her because her words and blog are like poison to me.

  • Saraquill

    Self awareness is a sin for her?

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    Perhaps I’m just blanking that out because it always looked the same to me. I used to rarely quote her at NLQ but lately it seems like there’s more extremely ridiculous things she’s posting.

  • Stephanie Rice

    Yes, that is definitely possible. Many of her posts are like deja vu all over again. And in the beginning of her blog, she had a teensy bit more grace and compassion for her readers. But as the years have gone on, she got meaner and meaner about blogging. She gives zero effs about how mean she is – she thinks she’s doing the Lord’s work when she verbally assaults other women.

  • Nea

    No wonder she’s such a fan of Debi Pearl.

  • Abigail Smith

    “Oh the sweet, sweet irony that she’s using her blog to tell others not to blog. The cognitive dissonance is so strong it burns!” BINGO. Nancy Campbell and her daughters do the same….they travel the world telling telling other women to stay home. But it’s ok for them because they are “ministering” It was seeing through this hypocrisy that first made me start doubting QF

  • Sandpirate

    It is a sin for many religions. That’s why they don’t want you to think for yourselves and only do what their book/preacher/priest says to do.

  • Mel

    Well, Lori’s got a few problems of her own in terms of trying to collect a large blog following.
    1) She has four grown kids. While raising four kids is an accomplishment, it’s not an accomplishment that will draw many CP/QF adherents to her without some sort of more interesting story of why they have so few kids. (And no, “We were smart enough to use BC to limit our family size” doesn’t work.)

    2) Her husband is a business man. That’s great, but it does nothing for the “ministry” obsessed CP/QF adherents who seem to want to be a hard-core CP/QF but don’t want to have to deal with the more annoying outcomes of being an untrained preacher’s wife.

    3) She toes the NGJ line so closely that she’s really limited to her appeal to Gothardites, the cult formerly known as Vision Forum, and assorted IFB groups.

    4)She has no actual credentials when it comes to what I think of as “Other topics of interest besides shaming women”. Most CP/QF bloggers who have a good following also specialize in homeschooling advice, advanced home survival (think how to home school 8 kids with two toddlers and an infant or pregnancy while keeping a tiny house in some level of order and feeding the army three meals a day with no money and no support besides your daughters…), CAM health information or advanced food management. Lori has a heap of blog posts on “health” topics, but the tips are mind-numbingly obvious. Think “you can use aloe for burns!” and “Pss-shaw, you don’t need no stinking doctor during pregnancy; after all, I saw a doctor and they did nothing and my pregnancies turned out fine….”

    5) Good bloggers interact with the comments on their blog in a way besides: “Thank you for supporting my super-idea!” “Nope, your minor criticism is totes wrong, peon!”

  • Astrin Ymris

    I suspect the problem is that the blogger being criticized uses birth control to limit her family to two kids– which may be why she has plenty of time to care for her family and blog, too! The “poor stewardship” crack may indicate that said blogger may also send her kids to public school, and possibly even read books like ‘Harry Potter’. *gasp*

    IOW, Lori is upset because moderate Christians are on the internet exercise their right to free speech to promote a lifestyle which is far more attractive than the CPM… which may be eroding Lori’s customer base. Plus, such blogs push on the Overton Window from within the Evangelical community.

  • Astrin Ymris

    I think the possibility of CPM mommybloggers dialoguing with commenters critical of the CPM is another thing which would upset Lori. I don’t know if there’s any data on how many members are dropping out of Militant Fecundity every year, because the Pew Forum groups all self-professed Evangelicals together in its data analysis, but from the existence of this and other sites, we know it’s a thing. It’s possible that the only thing that’s holding the CPM market share above water is counting all the young adults who are held in place by brainwashing, poor education, and identification abuse.

  • guest

    I just read that post and the one about Brad and Angelina. My goodness… that woman is full of self-righteousness and judgment. Her use of Biblical “proof” is very poor. No. Nowhere in the Bible does it say that passing gas, burping or showing one’s tongue are in any way shameful or attention-seeking behavior. But there is some talk about judging others and thinking oneself to be better. She even judges people for not treating their -probably not diagnosed- gallbladder and gut problems! The white tongue comment got my goat…. Just.. just shut up, Lori. Go out and serve someone, help a young mother in need, show some interest in young women’s worldview. Just get out from behind your computer screen and actually DO something useful.

  • Stephanie Rice

    Lori once wrote a blog post about how you should never do anything “unfeminine” in front of your husband and she included flossing in that list. Tooth brushing was fine, but not flossing. It was one of the stranger posts of hers.

  • persephone

    See, she’s an older woman, no longer raising children, so she had time to blog about all those lazy younger women who aren’t doing things God’s[Lori’s] way.

  • Allison the Great

    And then she was going on about women having farting contests. Um, no we don’t. I’ve never met any of these women. And why does she have a problem with a little girl sticking her tongue out? Let kids be kids, damn!

  • Abigail Smith

    LOL…but she’s been doing the Magazine thing and ministry for over 30 years, which means when her kids were young. Plus her grown daughters would travel with her, sometimes with nursing babies. Don’t you just love how they can always find an exception for themselves?

  • Nea

    Huh. When my mother broke her wrist, she was so happy that my father loved her enough to floss her teeth for her. It was mostly what she talked about when she called me (mind you, this was soon after the break and she was high on hospital morphine at the time.)

  • persephone

    It’s like vegans and PETA members who take insulin.

  • jennabobenna

    Dude. Not even married, but if I’ve dated a guy for a significant length of time and can’t feel comfortable enough to poop in the same zip code, I’m probably not going to continue in the relationship much longer. I mean, if I am having sex with a guy who can’t handle the fact that everybody poops, he can go back to kindergarten while I find a man worth my time.

  • guest

    She’d better be the one nursing her husband in their old age and not the other way around.

  • guest

    Perhaps. Lori can be the “Real Church-Going-Bible-Thumping Housewife”.

  • Astrin Ymris

    Um… I think all insulin today comes from genetically-engineered microbes. Just sayin’.