by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy – Pubermania
Editor’s note: Granted Michael Pearl wrote and posted this piece twenty years ago, but somehow I seriously doubt his advice has changed any in that time. Notice how he manages to push the submission of the mother into all this as a possible problem adding to the aggression of the teen boy. Fathers crushing down rebellion with hard looks? That’s not exactly healthy either. All of this just amounts to the same insecure, weak, wimpy men that seem to flourish in the Christian Patriarch Movement.
You may observe and want to protest that your young teenage son is just a child with no abilities or wisdom to lead. This is generally true; but leadership in a man does not necessarily come from wisdom or ability. It is initially hormonal and psychological. The boys will become more competitive and aggressive. They begin to step away from the crowd (including the family) and seek their identity alone. They become self-assured and cocky. They are ready to conquer, go to war if necessary. As their “own-man,” they may question untried authority or challenge unproved regulations. They are beginning the process of marching to their own drum beat, and not that of the crowd, including their mother’s.
Fathers can also have a problem with this development in their sons. Remember, the father has been the rooster of the yard, and suddenly he is challenged. If he is insecure, especially if he does not have the submission of his wife, he may rise in anger against this challenging upstart. For twelve or thirteen years, with just a hard look, he has been able to crush any challenge. Suddenly his hard look is returned. He may fly into a rage to try to strike down his challenger.
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